Youth Mental Health
Engagement or Attendance (Compromiso o Asistencia) which measurement is more important? Also read about breakthrough science and ChatGPT.
Youth Mental Health
Year 3, Week 48 (150 total reports)
22.03.2023-28.03.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Engagement or Attendance (Compromiso o Asistencia) which measurement is more important? Also read about breakthrough science and ChatGPT.
This Week’s Top Links
28.03.2023
Most Jobs Soon To Be ‘Influenced’ By Artificial Intelligence, Research Out Of OpenAI And University Of Pennsylvania Suggests
Many of this week’s articles focus on the Game-Changing technology of ChatGPT. We need to be teaching our children how to use it, not how to avoid it. Read the article by Bill Gates below for the incredible breakthrough this technology offers. This WILL become Job Skills 101 for the work force of the future. Also below, learn how to improve your own prompting skills.
27.03.2023
Student Engagement Matters More Than Attendance; Why Don’t Schools Track It?
We CAN measure Engagement and it is a far better indicator of student success than attendance (the next question is “does school success equate to life success?”). I think we choose to measure attendance because we can force compliance around that measurement and it puts the onus on the student to show up rather than on the teacher to improve.
26.03.2023
11 Tips to Take Your ChatGPT Prompts to the Next Level
https://www.wired.com/story/11-tips-better-chatgpt-prompts
I’ve had a lot of fun with this article this week. My wife asked, “When do the turtles come to nest on our local beaches,” and I thought of running the prompts: Turtle nesting, Chuburna beaches, less than 200 words, write in the style of Donald Trump. Do your own “Prompt Play” and see what your friends, family and children can create. Send your results (and prompts) to me.
25.03.2023
The Unexpected Gift of Trauma: The Path to Posttraumatic Growth
It is so important to remember the difference between adversity and trauma. All of us experience adversity, the majority of us have multiple adverse experiences in our lives. But not all adversity becomes trauma. This article looks at turning adversity into growth.
24.03.2023
Bill Gates Says We're Witnessing a 'Stunning' New Technology Age. 5 Ways You Must Prepare Now
This was my highlighted article of the week. To say that ChatGPT is the most stunning step since UI (User Interface) is a major statement. Read why Gates thinks it’s so important.
23.03.2023
How Smart People Can Stop Being Miserable
https://apple.news/AWXoxshWPS3Sgw8x-UnB-Dw
I know a lot of smart, but miserable, people and this article can be very helpful in encouraging them to alter behaviors that undermine both their joy and their self-esteem. I sure walked away with a lot of new insights from this article.
22.03.2023
Private opulence, public squalor: How the U.S. helps the rich and hurts the poor
The USA is rapidly becoming locked into a country that is Of the rich, BY the rich and FOR the rich. Open up this article to learn why this is occurring and how to identify the techniques used by the opulent to manipulate poverty to their advantage. Discuss with friends; who benefits from poverty, school shootings and anti-woke hatred?
This Week’s Links
28.03.2023
Most Jobs Soon To Be ‘Influenced’ By Artificial Intelligence, Research Out Of OpenAI And University Of Pennsylvania Suggests
You Should Use ChatGPT for These Mundane Tasks
https://lifehacker.com/you-should-use-chatgpt-for-these-mundane-tasks-1850263749
Why the FDA Approved a Video Game—Yes, a Video Game!—as an Official Treatment for ADHD
https://www.wellandgood.com/video-game-to-treat-adhd/
Do You Struggle With ADHD? Changing Your Diet and Habits in These 5 Ways May Help Ease Symptoms
https://www.womansworld.com/posts/health/adhd-symptoms-improve
ABOLISH POVERTY: Matthew Desmond on How We Can Do It
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/abolish-poverty-matthew-desmond-can-podcast/41076/
For the sake of our children, the global carbon budget is the most important one to balance
27.03.2023
Student Engagement Matters More Than Attendance; Why Don’t Schools Track It?
Showing Up with Empathy
Most Jobs Soon To Be ‘Influenced’ By Artificial Intelligence, Research Out Of OpenAI And University Of Pennsylvania Suggests
The GOP's 'Parents Bill of Rights' excludes millions of parents
https://www.msnbc.com/opinion/msnbc-opinion/gops-parents-bill-rights-nightmare-teachers-rcna76554
Education expert John Hattie's new book draws on more than 130,000 studies to find out what helps students learn
To help new students adapt, some colleges are eliminating grades
26.03.2023
11 Tips to Take Your ChatGPT Prompts to the Next Level
https://www.wired.com/story/11-tips-better-chatgpt-prompts
This generative AI tool actually teaches kids how to write
The Party that Says It's Protecting Kids Pushes to Bring Back Child Labor
https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/politics/a43412169/child-labor-united-states/
Emotionally Intelligent People Use This Simple 3-Word Phrase to Make Better Decisions and Move On
25.03.2023
The Unexpected Gift of Trauma: The Path to Posttraumatic Growth
What Has Caused the Long Decline in Kids’ Mental Health?
Rehumanizing the Teaching Profession
https://www.ascd.org/blogs/rehumanizing-the-teaching-profession?_hsmi=251464198
24.03.2023
Bill Gates Says We're Witnessing a 'Stunning' New Technology Age. 5 Ways You Must Prepare Now
Most trans adults say transitioning made them more satisfied with their lives
https://apple.news/A5Gbl6AvoRFyYhdKa2kyGwg
12 Little Tricks To Be More Courageous Every Day
https://www.yourtango.com/self/how-to-be-more-courageous
Book bans hit record high, overwhelmingly targeting titles by or about queer or Black people
23.03.2023
How Smart People Can Stop Being Miserable
https://apple.news/AWXoxshWPS3Sgw8x-UnB-Dw
Woke Is Just Another Word for Liberal
https://apple.news/AgEtKdcMqSamC9SoYsKaS2Q
Wendy Suzuki: How to calm your anxiety, from a neuroscientist
https://www.ted.com/talks/wendy_suzuki_how_to_calm_your_anxiety_from_a_neuroscientist
22.03.2023
Private opulence, public squalor: How the U.S. helps the rich and hurts the poor
What It's Like to Be an LGBTQ+ High Schooler in DeSantis's Florida
https://www.advocate.com/voices/school-desantis-florida
When My Dad Got Cancer, I Kept Asking, 'Why Him?' His 3-Word Response Floored Me.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/dad-colon-colorectal-cancer-grief_n_640f74c9e4b0a3902d2c5a27
Moving Toward Values-Based Actions
What to Know About the Conners 4 ADHD Assessment
https://www.verywellmind.com/the-conners-4-adhd-assessment-test-how-its-used-scoring-7104954
Youth Mental Health
Play, collaboration and motivational interviewing (Juego, colaboración y entrevistas motivacionales). Important techniques for parenting and leadership (paternidad y liderazgo).
Youth Mental Health
Year 3, Week 47 (149 total reports)
15.03.2023-21.03.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Play, collaboration and motivational interviewing (Juego, colaboración y entrevistas motivacionales). Important techniques for parenting and leadership (paternidad y liderazgo).
This Week’s Top Links
21.03.2023
New Research Shows Why Kids Need Play for Mental Health
Unstructured play often occurs when a child is bored and finds creative solutions to their idleness. Unfortunately, many adults abhor boredom and we have inundated that time with social media and doom scrolling. Worse still, we project that need to fill every mental void onto our children. The truth is this projection is damaging. It limits the creativity of children and their sense of wonder. The type of boredom I’m speaking about is not the boredom often experienced in some classrooms when children sit for hours listening to an egocentric, redundant lecturer. It is the boredom they might feel when there is a lull in their day. We shouldn’t rush to fill that void with structured games or activities. The child will find something creative to do. And the more they are exposed to unstructured play, the more creative they become. Schedule downtime for your children and yourself. Avoid the compulsive rush to be continually busy or on a mobile device. Leave room for boredom and creativity. A compulsive generation would say, “Idle hands are the devil’s playground,” the truth is, “Idle hands are creativity’s opportunity…”
20.03.2023
On Mister Rogers' birthday, a question: Would today's GOP try to ban him for being woke?
There is a cartoon in the links below where an individual (who hates “woke”) is asked to define it. In exasperation, she finally says, “It’s everything I don’t like…” Woke has become the MAGA GOP’s buzzword for compassion; caring for the vulnerable, standing against racism, being open to other people’s points of view and/or spending on healthcare or other programs that assist the poor. Fred Rogers was supportive of such things and wrote many episodes about racism and empathy. This question intrigued me and I sadly must answer in the positive. YES! The GOP would target Mister Rogers and try to ban him from television and teaching our children.
19.03.2023
7 Most Destructive Habits People Have
https://infinitymasculine.com/posts/7-most-destructive-habits-people-have
Please take an inventory from this article and pass it along to your friends. If you don’t find yourself admitting that you exhibit any of these habits, perhaps you need friends who will be more honest with you. As a pastor, I used to tell my congregation when encouraging them to go with me to detention centers and prisons; “We are all either sinners or liars.” I really love this quote from Eugene H. Peterson’s, The Message: Matthew 7:1-5 “Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults—unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.
18.03.2023
The Power of Wonder: The Extraordinary Emotion that Will Change the Way You Live, Learn and Lead
This link, Next Big Idea Club, often has reviews of excellent new books and ideas that are about to be released. I’m infatuated with the quest to be a model of wonder. Even thinking of wonder as an emotion we can both co-regulate and develop is an exciting concept to me. Wonder as a key ingredient in leadership, parenting and educating would reform the way that we raise children and relate with each other. Use this article to explore how you can develop the habits of wonder and apply them to your life.
17.03.2023
The So-Called “Culture Wars”
https://kottke.org/23/03/the-so-called-culture-wars
Like “Woke,” “Culture Wars,” is an adage of the radical right used to send people off into rabbit holes of deluded thinking. Culture Wars is a clandestine term for hatred. It attempts to WHITEwash efforts to raise awareness or compassion for people of color or atypical behavior. It attempts to persuade us that we should return to an America that was GREAT: Great for white, heterosexual, businessmen. A time when no one questioned the norm for fear of political hacks like Joseph R. McCarthy and J. Edgar Hoover.
16.03.2023
The Tactic That Can Make Arguing With A Stubborn Person Much Easier
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-use-motivational-interviewing-change-persons-mind
Motivational Interviewing: This is a technique often used by therapists when dealing with addictions and compulsions, what I often refer to as, “Yeahbut…” situations. When no matter what you suggest the person responds with, “Yeah but…” The next time you find yourself in a repetitive loop with someone who is as ensconced in their version of truth as you are (admit it…), switch to this technique and both of you might come out learning more—if not about the topic—at least about each other.
15.03.2023
Harvard career expert: The No. 1 'desirable skill' that very few people have—especially men
https://apple.news/AAy3HpuV-T5OfX8AAeyM2oA
Encouraging collaboration in young people means moving beyond the culture of individualism. Our individualistic society often rewards self-initiative instead of group collaboration. Many of our classrooms are still set up as if the only “expert” in the room is the person lecturing. Collaboration recognizes that we each have expertise we can bring to the table and a leader’s role is to call forth that group knowledge.
This Week’s Links
21.03.2023
New Research Shows Why Kids Need Play for Mental Health
Raising Teens Made Me Question Myself As A Parent
https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/to-the-parents-who-feel-like-giving-up-on-the-teen
Editorial cartoon: Define 'woke'
https://www.startribune.com/editorial-cartoon-define-woke/600260479/
What Will COVID Babies Be Like In Kindergarten? A Doctor Explains
https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/what-will-covid-babies-be-like-in-kindergarten
20.03.2023
On Mister Rogers' birthday, a question: Would today's GOP try to ban him for being woke?
Prepare Yourself Now for the Changing World
The Truth About Long COVID Is Finally Emerging. It’s Not What We Thought.
https://apple.news/A2Q8_xcjAQuStcALh7Qju4w
19.03.2023
7 Most Destructive Habits People Have
https://infinitymasculine.com/posts/7-most-destructive-habits-people-have
11 Simple Rules That Will Help You Navigate Almost Any Awkward Situation
Florida Republican Says His Bill Would Ban Young Girls From Discussing Their Periods In School
https://apple.news/ADGVHh_kPRCiNuSh0k_Itug
18.03.2023
The Power of Wonder: The Extraordinary Emotion that Will Change the Way You Live, Learn and Lead
5 Totally Bonkers Things Happening to Your Teenager’s Brain That All Parents Should Know
Woman recreates 'Inside Out' from a neurodivergent standpoint and people are feeling seen
https://www.upworthy.com/inside-out-with-neurodivergence
These 3 'secret strengths' can make introverted kids become highly successful adults, says bestselling author Susan Cain
17.03.2023
The So-Called “Culture Wars”
https://kottke.org/23/03/the-so-called-culture-wars
Harvard psychologists have been studying what it takes to raise 'good' kids. Here are 6 tips.
The Most Important Habit to Break if You Have Anxiety
https://parade.com/health/worst-habit-for-anxiety
My Adult Son Has Mastered the Art of Weaponized Incompetence
https://slate.com/human-interest/2023/03/weaponized-incompetence-care-and-feeding-advice.html
How To Fight The Urge To Always Make Everything About Yourself
16.03.2023
The Tactic That Can Make Arguing With A Stubborn Person Much Easier
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-use-motivational-interviewing-change-persons-mind
6 Expert Tips for Dealing with Separation Fears
Youth Mental Health
Awe and Kindness (asombro y amabilidad), how do we put that at the heart of what we teach? Doing so makes less self-centered, more joyful (Menos egocéntrico, más alegre) humans.
Youth Mental Health
Year 3, Week 46 (148 total reports)
01.03.2023-07.03.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Awe and Kindness (asombro y amabilidad), how do we put that at the heart of what we teach? Doing so makes less self-centered, more joyful (Menos egocéntrico, más alegre) humans.
This Week’s Top Links
14.03.2023
One Powerful Way to Help Young People Be Less Self-Focused
Apparently curricula that focuses on testing and SAT’s leads to students who are self-focused. Healthy children come to us full of wonder—that is their primary investment. Our true role should be to return that investment (ROI). When young people graduate they shouldn’t be saying, “I’m so glad that is over,” but, “There is so much more to learn!” Designing a curricula based on wonder (and awe) also leads young people to be less self-focused.
13.03.2023
2,000 Years of Kindness
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/12/kindness/
Last week, I spoke glowingly about this magazine, The Marginalian. Let me add to that praise by encouraging you to review this essay about kindness. Our work with children should lead to helping them deepen their wonder and become kinder people. That is exactly what the world needs today, not more opinionated psuedo-experts like Ron DeSantis, Rupert Murdoch and Tucker Carlson. Intelligence and wealth are not bettering our world. DeSantis is an Ivy League trained lawyer and is creating a fascist state that he wants to become a model for the way he would lead America as a President.
12.09.2023
We’re Missing a Key Driver of Teen Anxiety
https://apple.news/A3ezW_OhTSAiloPg6dEUuvw
In our rush to “make up” for lost time during COVID, we are doubling down on STEM learning with our children. This doubling down is leading to increased teen anxiety from increased adult pressure. As mentioned above, STEM curricula has not led to an exceptional economic or democratic world. To drive down stress in our young people’s lives, research indicates that we need to increase teaching methods that lead to wonder and kindness. Every subject can lead to wonder, but that needs to become the goal, not a byproduct. “How can I make my students more interested in learning?” That should be the primary question of every school.
11.03.2023
All Work, No Independent Play Cause of Children’s Declining Mental Health
https://neurosciencenews.com/child-psychology-play-22750/
Looking at this week’s links, you might think I was cherry-picking articles that featured the stress we are creating in young people’s lives by doubling down on tests and curriculum. But I’m not, these articles—based upon strong research—are bounteous in any review of adolescent literature. Often, what is taught in our schools is slow to respond to research, but this is critical and time-sensitive. No generation of children has reported higher stress than the current generation.
10.03.2023
How to Respond When Your Kid Shuts You Out
https://lifehacker.com/how-to-respond-when-your-kid-shuts-you-out-1850202747
Children don’t shut us out because they hate us, they shut us out because they’re overwhelmed. Research on police officers under pressure reveal the same behaviors. The more stress we experience, the narrower our viewpoint and the less empathic we become. The list in this article offers many insights and strategies to why children shut us out and how we can respond.
09.03.2023
How to Help Teenagers Stay Motivated at School
https://time.com/6260825/teenagers-motivation-school/
In one of my open conversations with a teen this week, he (a very bright young man) told me how bored he was at school and spoke about how his friends and he are learning to “hack” the system. His responses have been genius, in the real world he would be commended and he’d be a great member of any work team. There was no way I could reprimand him when his responses were truly initiated by the lack of innovation from his teachers. Having worked in many school systems, I have seen that many teachers are hog-tied by administrations that focus myopically on test results and not student development beyond academics. This is also a result of political and parental pressure. We can be more involved in our children’s education—in a healthy way. But that also means being well-informed about human development, socially, emotionally and cognitively, not just academically. Unfortunately, many of the issues being focused on by parents at school board meetings across the United States are driven by the fears of the religious fundamentalism rife within the political system. One of the articles worth reading below, “2600 Leaked Anti-trans Lobbyist Emails Show Fundamentalism, Not Evidence, Is How First Anti-Trans Bills Were Drafted,” speaks to the lack of evidence-based research in some of the policies driving school decisions today. It is alarming, read the article below about how one Texan lawmaker wants to draft legislation that would put a bounty on Transgender people “If You’re a Drag Performer in Texas, You Could Soon Have a Bounty on Your Head.”
08.03.2023
How American Schools Manufacture Anxious Teens
If the goal is to raise anxious, self-focused adults, American Schools are doing a stellar job. If the goal is to raise a kinder, awe-inspired generation, American Schools are doing abysmal. The worst education is correlated with the Reddest States. Shutting down libraries and barring curricula that teaches accurate history, is dumbing down children, increasing their stress and making them incompetent for the workplace or leadership. Fortunately, many young people themselves, see the ineptitude in this and are gathering to push back. They realize we can’t protect their bodies, let alone their minds and they are calling us out for our hypocrisy. I tip my hat to those brave young people.
This Week’s Links
14.03.2023
One Powerful Way to Help Young People Be Less Self-Focused
The 5 Superpowers of Highly Sensitive People
https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/the-5-superpowers-of-highly-sensitive-people.html
Designing Trauma-Sensitive Classroom Management Strategies
5 Must-Read Books for Anyone Fascinated by the Human Mind
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/5-must-read-books-anyone-fascinated-human-mind/40651/
If You’re a Drag Performer in Texas, You Could Soon Have a Bounty on Your Head
13.03.2023
2,000 Years of Kindness
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/12/kindness/
Targeting LGBTQ rights: straight from authoritarian Germany and Russia
The COVID Question That Will Take Decades to Answer
https://apple.news/AgDLZFqsWSIKHDj9KVQ3E_A
12.09.2023
We’re Missing a Key Driver of Teen Anxiety
https://apple.news/A3ezW_OhTSAiloPg6dEUuvw
The Kinds of Loneliness No One Is Talking About
How to Bear Your Loneliness: Grounding Wisdom from the Great Buddhist Teacher Pema Chödrön
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/11/pema-chodron-loneliness/
2600 Leaked Anti-trans Lobbyist Emails Show Fundamentalism, Not Evidence, Is How First Anti-Trans Bills Were Drafted
https://erininthemorn.substack.com/p/2600-leaked-anti-trans-lobbyist-emails
'I'm sick of schools not teaching my kids life lessons - science is pointless'
https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/im-sick-schools-not-teaching-29425260
Harvard professor explains Bayes’ rule
https://bigthink.com/series/explain-it-like-im-smart/bayes-rule-375536/
11.03.2023
All Work, No Independent Play Cause of Children’s Declining Mental Health
https://neurosciencenews.com/child-psychology-play-22750/
The science and art of challenging assumptions
https://www.nature.com/articles/d42473-022-00442-1
Groundbreaking study identifies the cause of ADHD
https://www.thebrighterside.news/post/3072023-groundbreaking-study-identifies-the-cause-of-adhd
These Actually-Nice Throw Blankets Are Weighted Blankets In Disguise
https://apple.news/A2GzFI2eBR_iZ0ZIEj0p6SQ
10.03.2023
How to Respond When Your Kid Shuts You Out
https://lifehacker.com/how-to-respond-when-your-kid-shuts-you-out-1850202747
Teachers, Try This: Help Your Students Embrace Boredom
09.03.2023
How to Help Teenagers Stay Motivated at School
https://time.com/6260825/teenagers-motivation-school/
The Remarkable Power of Kindness and Why It Matters
5 Best Breathing Exercises to Relieve Anxiety and Stress
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/5-breathing-exercises-to-reduce-stress/
The fear and fury of these Florida parents
https://www.washingtonpost.com/parenting/2023/03/08/florida-laws-parents/
The Danger of Raising Children Without Consequences
Social media addiction disrupts the sleep, moods and social activities of teens and young adults
08.03.2023
How American Schools Manufacture Anxious Teens
Educators’ View: What Teachers Need to Succeed and Stay in the Classroom
A Doctor with ADHD Shares How to Thrive With the Diagnosis
https://www.menshealth.com/health/a43084713/adhd-tools-diagnosis-sasha-hamdani/
The surprisingly simple parenting advice that almost always works, even when all else fails
https://www.upworthy.com/simple-parenting-advice-that-almost-always-works
This is why 'polycrisis' is a useful way of looking at the world right now
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2023/03/polycrisis-adam-tooze-historian-explains/
Stress may lead to lower cognitive function, study finds
https://www.cnn.com/2023/03/07/health/high-stress-lower-cognition-study-wellness/
Florida teachers react to Gov. DeSantis State of the State: Students and educators deserve better
Youth Mental Health
Learn how to raise sensitive, empathic children (niños sensibles y empáticos) that will assist each other when anxiety (ansiedad) feels overwhelming.
Youth Mental Health
Year 3, Week 46 (148 total reports)
01.03.2023-07.03.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Learn how to raise sensitive, empathic children (niños sensibles y empáticos) that will assist each other when anxiety (ansiedad) feels overwhelming.
This Week’s Top Links
07.03.2023
Radical Compassion and the Seeds of Change: The Dalai Lama’s Illustrated Ecological Philosophy for the Next Generation
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/06/heart-to-heart-dalai-lama-patrick-mcdonnell/
Links from this online resource (The Marginalian) are rapidly becoming some of my favorites. This article will reveal why. This article reviews a brilliant book filled with compelling quotes, illustrations and poetry that speak to our connectedness—both to each other and to our environment. I hope that parent(s), teachers and home care staff will not only invest in this book, but also invest in taking the time to read it next to a young person. If I were still in a detention setting, this is exactly the type of book I would ask our “golden greeters” to come and read to our incarcerated youth.
06.03.2023
How to Grow Re-enchanted with the World: A Salve for the Sense of Existential Meaninglessness and Burnout
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/04/katherine-may-enchantment/
Is it burnout or have we forgotten how to be enchanted? This article (also from my new favorite, the Marginalian) asks us to examine this critical question. Attaching meaning to our lives (and the lives of our children) raises our well-being and our engagement. However, it does take time and reflection. It is another important habit to co-regulate with children as they negotiate adolescence.
05.03.2023
Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World
We do the term “sensitive” a disservice when we use it to imply that a person is easily offended. Sensitive people are also highly aware—of their environment and the feelings of the people around them. In a positive light, we would call “sensitive” people empathic. Empathy doesn’t have to lead to frailty and an ego that is easily insulted. In its true form, being sensitive helps people become good leaders or teachers because they know how to read a room and tell the readiness of a crowd. Examining the positive aspects of sensitivity and limiting the negatives is beneficial for our lives and the lives of our children.
04.03.2023
Kids who do these 12 things have 'highly sensitive' brains—why parenting experts say it's an 'advantage'
As mentioned in the previous paragraph, being sensitive has plusses and minuses, unfortunately some people have used it as a label to typecast people. In this article, see how leaders, with expertise in parenting, have chosen to see the plusses of being sensitive and learned how to grow those positive aspects in the children around them.
03.03.2023
A surprising remedy for teens in mental health crises
https://hechingerreport.org/a-surprising-remedy-for-teens-in-mental-health-crises/
Training young people to recognize anxiety in each other and giving them tools to help a friend take a mental health break (or seek assistance if complicated) is truly the most advanced way to help youth. In my own work in schools, young people who were trained in this manner increased their awareness, felt a sense of deeper meaning in their school culture and had a healthier sense of well-being. We spend so much time prompting young people to compete, it is worth spending an equal amount of time to train youth to cooperate. Of course, any cultural change among youth must be first led by a cultural change among adults. A culture that is filled with specific praise—especially praising the efforts of each other—and devoid of sarcasm. Sarcasm—when used to “discipline” children—is a negligent of adults who are frustrated they can’t use physical violence to force compliance. It prompts students who are less cognitively adept at the subtleties of sarcasm, to use physical means to bully (force compliance on) others. Most of the sarcasm I’ve seen teachers use with children is really a form of insulting the child. We don’t inspire healthy cognitive development by insulting or hitting people. That only serves to shut down the learning and growth potential of the brain (see the article below about “The Blindness of Blame.”)
02.03.2023
From ‘Dilbert’ to DeSantis, white grievance is all the rage
https://www.msnbc.com/the-reidout/reidout-blog/dilbert-scott-adams-white-grievance-rcna72688
Scott Adams (creator or Dilbert) joined the ranks of many raging white xenophobes this week with a rant about white grievance. White Grievance is close-minded view of the world that sees compassion (being woke) as a threat. DeSantis labels it as liberalism and—in his manifesto for a presidential run—“The Courage to Be Free”—reveals how he wants to make his racist and anti-LGBTQ views into both the law of the land and the curricula we teach our children. Indeed, many of the policies he is trying to pass in Florida are unconstitutional; but when has that stopped some authoritarian members of the GOP from trying to force their viewpoints on others?
01.03.2023
The Blindness of Blame: How Anger Stops Awareness and Growth
Many members of the authoritarian branch of the GOP have begun to label awareness and growth under one negative term: “Woke.” As if it is a weakness to be compassionate. In fact, some members have elevated the use of blame to an art form and are attempting to instill it in the policies of the US. Legalizing rage, hatred and racism and instilling it as the primary curricula in schools, is simply the beginning of an authoritarian state the undermines democracy. It is the opposite of what the framers of the constitution (though many were also slave-holders) had in mind when they proposed a new nation separate from England’s monarchy.
This Week’s Links
07.03.2023
Radical Compassion and the Seeds of Change: The Dalai Lama’s Illustrated Ecological Philosophy for the Next Generation
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/06/heart-to-heart-dalai-lama-patrick-mcdonnell/
Teachers change lives -- but what makes a great teacher?
https://theconversation.com/teachers-change-lives-but-what-makes-a-great-teacher-198313
What Can Teachers Do to Engage Anxious Students?
New study provides insight into the relationship between ADHD and school attendance problems in adolescents
How to Save Academic Freedom From Ron DeSantis
‘Parental rights’ advocates don’t really trust parents
https://floridaphoenix.com/2023/03/06/parental-rights-advocates-dont-really-trust-parents/
This Is How Long It Really Takes to Break a Habit—and 7 Steps to Actually Do It
https://www.realsimple.com/how-to-break-a-habit-7197984
06.03.2023
How to Grow Re-enchanted with the World: A Salve for the Sense of Existential Meaninglessness and Burnout
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/03/04/katherine-may-enchantment/
A New Distillation of What Works in Classroom Instruction
For Educators, ChatGPT Poses Big Questions—and Big Possibilities
How common is transgender treatment regret, detransitioning?
Exercise Isn't the Only Hobby That Boosts Your Mental Health
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/exercise-isnt-the-only-hobby-that-boosts-your-mental-health/
05.03.2023
Sensitive: The Hidden Power of the Highly Sensitive Person in a Loud, Fast, Too-Much World
2 Ways to Gain Control Over Your Anger
Use the ‘Stop Drop, and Roll’ Technique To Deal When You’re Emotionally Triggered
https://www.wellandgood.com/how-to-respond-emotional-triggers/
04.03.2023
Kids who do these 12 things have 'highly sensitive' brains—why parenting experts say it's an 'advantage'
How to Stop Being Defensive
https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-defensive-7187366
03.03.2023
A surprising remedy for teens in mental health crises
https://hechingerreport.org/a-surprising-remedy-for-teens-in-mental-health-crises/
America’s teenage girls are not OK
https://apple.news/ACY5HDOJ4RB2kbwcyKGEREg
What Losing My Two Children Taught Me About Grief
https://apple.news/AInpkklAMSnK0rBBkDzYO7A
John Fetterman shows how depression can become an emergency. Experts say to watch for these signs of crisis
https://fortune.com/well/2023/03/02/signs-depression-emergency-signs-of-crisis/
The Power of Purpose: Find Meaning to Enjoy More Well-Being
A Simple Breathing Technique to Calm Your Nerves
https://www.shannonkyeageryoga.com/post/how-to-do-box-breathing
Self-Acceptance and Self-Esteem Aren't the Same Thing. What to Know
02.03.2023
From ‘Dilbert’ to DeSantis, white grievance is all the rage
https://www.msnbc.com/the-reidout/reidout-blog/dilbert-scott-adams-white-grievance-rcna72688
How to Find Joy in Your Sisyphean Existence
A psychology expert shares the 7 toxic signs of 'highly insecure' people—and how to deal with them
The GOP wants to erase LGBTQ people
https://epgn.com/2023/03/01/the-gop-wants-to-erase-lgbtq-people/
01.03.2023
The Blindness of Blame: How Anger Stops Awareness and Growth
Deaths of Despair
https://www.instagram.com/p/CpNx8EDpRhK/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=
Nature baths can positively impact on your amygdala, the part of the brain that registers stress
https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2023/02/heres-why-a-nature-bath-helps-your-brain-recover/
How To Create Good Sleep Habits for Kids — 11 Sleep Tips for Infants, Adolescents, and Teens
https://www.womansworld.com/posts/health/how-to-teach-good-sleep-habits-for-kids
How do you end a conversation with someone who won't stop talking? 19 people share their tricks.
https://www.upworthy.com/how-do-you-stop-a-conversation-with-someone-who-wont-stop-talking-rp2
Three Big Takeaways from Educational Leadership’s Report on Remote Learning
Transforming Empathy Into Compassion: Why It Matters
Dr Becky Is Here to Help Make Your Parenting Journey Easier
https://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/2716575/dr-becky-kennedy-good-inside-parenting-advice/
Youth Mental Health
Adolescent mental health (salud mental adolescente) especially among young women (mujer jóvenes) is a central theme to this week’s links.
Youth Mental Health
Year 3, Week 45 (147 total reports)
22.02.2023-28.02.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Adolescent mental health (salud mental adolescente) especially among young women (mujer jóvenes) is a central theme to this week’s links.
This Week’s Top Links
28.02.2023
The Key To Tackling Our Mental Health Crisis: Community-Based Care
The role of a leader today must be to connect those who are well-off with the vulnerable or as Dorothy Day used to say, “to afflict the comfortable and the comfort the afflicted.” Too many of our leaders act as if they are the afflicted when, in fact, most have not really known hardship. In this article, the author recalls when his own child was overwhelmed by mental health issues and a community stepped in to assist the child and family. Now he oversees a non-profit organization that creates community for the vulnerable.
27.02.2023
Seattle's Third Avenue Project takes a new approach to old problems
https://crosscut.com/news/2023/02/seattles-third-avenue-project-takes-new-approach-old-problems
I took special interest in this story because 1) I WAS a homeless youth on the streets of Seattle and 2) I worked with a pre-cursor to the program long before it had any funding or structure. This project is a model for communities around the world.
25.02.2023
A mom describes her tween son's brain. It's a must-read for all parents
Not only does this mom do a good job of describing the teen brain, but she does it to teach her own tween about what’s going on inside his brain. Adolescents need to know about all the physiological changes that are occurring to both their bodies AND their brains. Knowledge is one part of understanding and can lead to empathy and self-compassion.
24.02.2023
3 Things People Who Are Good at Conversation Don't Do, According to a Research Psychologist
At different times in my conversations, I have been guilty of all three of these conversation blockers. Naming them is the first step to ending them.
23.02.2023
No, Teen Suicide Isn’t Rising Because Life Got Objectively Worse
https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2023/02/teen-suicide-depression-girls-social-media.html
What many people don’t realize about the adolescent brain is that it begins as very concrete operational, in other words, the immediate is given an almost compulsive focus. Social media isn’t the only issue here, although limiting social media is one of the solutions. Adolescents can become obsessively entranced by comparisons and excessively sensitive to criticism. Generally speaking, any social filter or healthy boundary they have must be developed with the assistance of a healthy adult.
22.02.2023
Bertrand Russell on the Secret of Happiness
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/02/21/bertrand-russell-happiness/
I love a phrase this author uses in her article, “Unselfing.” It is a regular exercise she uses in her life to gain perspective. She cites happiness as a state where we are “dissolved into something complete and great.” When we are at the happiest, this state of transient hypofrontality (getting lost to the moment—and, in particular—lost to the critical self) is worth growing in the regular habits of our lives. What do you do on a frequent bases to “unself?”
This Week’s Links
28.02.2023
The Key To Tackling Our Mental Health Crisis: Community-Based Care
Ukraine Releases Banksy Mural Stamp To Mark One Year Anniversary of Russia’s Invasion
https://mymodernmet.com/ukraine-banksy-stamp/
Full-Time Teacher Forced To Deliver Pizzas Because She 'Can't Survive' On Her Teaching Paycheck
https://www.yourtango.com/news/full-time-teacher-deliver-pizzas-she-cant-survive-teaching-salary
Top 26 Resources for Learning Sign Language
https://www.ireviews.com/sign-language-resources
27.02.2023
Seattle's Third Avenue Project takes a new approach to old problems
https://crosscut.com/news/2023/02/seattles-third-avenue-project-takes-new-approach-old-problems
How to help teen girls’ mental health struggles | New Pittsburgh Courier
https://newpittsburghcourier.com/2023/02/27/how-to-help-teen-girls-mental-health-struggles/
Want to Raise Children Who Become Emotionally Intelligent Leaders? Try the “Rule of Reflection”
You'll Never Be Happy If You Keep Trying To Solve Your Problems This Way
https://www.yourtango.com/self/youll-never-be-happy-keep-trying-solve-problems-this-way
Dr. Randy Cale’s Terrific Parenting: Part II: Managing the child with ADD/ADHD
I’m a teacher and have a go-to phrase to make sure kids do things the first time you tell them to – it works every time
A lack of problem-solving skills and rigid thinking linked to vaccine refusal, study finds
26.02.2023
Clarifying What Matters
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mindfully-doing-what-matters/202302/clarifying-what-matters
How to help young people limit screen time — and feel better about how they look
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/02/26/1159099629/teens-social-media-body-image
Teacher says schools need to keep students’ info from ‘Christo-fascist’ parents
25.02.2023
A mom describes her tween son's brain. It's a must-read for all parents
Analysis: There’s a mental health crisis among teen girls. Here are some ways to support them
Zen Dens: Creating Mental Health Spaces at School
https://www.edweek.org/leadership/zen-dens-creating-mental-health-spaces-at-school/2023/02
Students across Florida walk out in protest of Gov. Ron DeSantis' anti-American policies
How to Know When Your Child Needs Help
Teen suicide sprouts from depression or mood disorder, says expert
https://www.citizen.co.za/news/teen-suicide-sprouts-from-depression-or-mood-disorder-february-2023/
How to Help a Child with Anxiety, According to Experts
https://www.purewow.com/family/how-to-help-a-child-with-anxiety
Parenting Coach Shares Top Tip For Dealing With A Strong-Willed Child
People With High Emotional Intelligence Use These 3 Incredibly Powerful Words Every Single Day
Parents Swear by These Anxiety Tents To Help Kids Relax—and They’re All on Sale
https://www.parents.com/anxiety-tents-amazon-sale-7113624
24.02.2023
3 Things People Who Are Good at Conversation Don't Do, According to a Research Psychologist
Why People Interrupt Us and What to Do About It
Social Media Researcher Calls CDC Report “The Last Straw”
https://mindmatters.ai/2023/02/social-media-researcher-calls-cdc-report-the-last-straw/
‘Hugely disappointing’: Scientists, doctors denounce Idaho plan to criminalize mRNA vaccines
Florida Students Stage Walkout Over Ron DeSantis' Anti-Trans, Anti-Diversity Policies
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/florida-college-walkout-desantis_n_63f7a52de4b0e2590d423d36
Book bans internalize ‘shame’ for young LGBTQ+ people, advocates say. Here’s how they’re pushing back.
https://19thnews.org/2023/02/book-bans-lgbtq-reading/
23.02.2023
No, Teen Suicide Isn’t Rising Because Life Got Objectively Worse
https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2023/02/teen-suicide-depression-girls-social-media.html
Do You Have a "Set Mind" or a "Mindset"?
The next steps for Lee County GOP’s “Ban the jab” resolution
https://winknews.com/2023/02/22/the-next-steps-for-lee-county-gops-ban-the-jab-resolution/
22.02.2023
Bertrand Russell on the Secret of Happiness
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/02/21/bertrand-russell-happiness/
Colleges have a role in cultivating hopefulness (opinion) | Inside Higher Ed
https://www.insidehighered.com/views/2023/02/22/colleges-have-role-cultivating-hopefulness-opinion
Adults Are Letting Teen Girls Down
The Book That Explains Why Our Approach to Teen Unhappiness Is All Wrong
https://slate.com/culture/2023/02/emotional-lives-teenagers-lisa-damour-interview.html
This class requires ChatGPT usage, and the results are surprising
https://www.zdnet.com/article/this-class-requires-chatgpt-usage-the-results-are-surprising/
You Don’t Need to Be “the Boss” to Be a Leader
https://hbr.org/2023/02/you-dont-need-to-be-the-boss-to-be-a-leader
This Family Therapist–Created Quiz Pinpoints Inner Child Wounds That Could Be Influencing Your Behavior
https://www.wellandgood.com/inner-child-wounds/
Oxytocin’s effects aren’t just about love
Youth Mental Health
Living a gentle life (una vida gentil). Soft and Slow (Suave y lento) will be a part of my mantra this week. How can I invite those around me to live gentle lives?
Youth Mental Health
Year 3, Week 44 (146 total reports)
15.02.2023-21.02.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Living a gentle life (una vida gentil). Soft and Slow (Suave y lento) will be a part of my mantra this week. How can I invite those around me to live gentle lives?
This Week’s Top Links
21.02.2023
If You Have Trouble Taking Slow, Deep Breaths, Think Instead About Breathing ‘Softly’
https://www.wellandgood.com/soft-breathing-technique/
One of the links I posted a couple weeks ago spoke about helping children when they are anxious. A tool they suggested was asking children to get on the floor with the child and pretend we are sloths; in other words, move and breath slowly. I embrace the concept of slow and soft. The words for go slowly in Spanish are “ir poco, a poco,” or, “go little by little.” It is part of my daily mantra. “Smile, breath, go slowly.” I might even add “breath softly” to that mantra, “respira suavemente.”
20.02.2023
A Psychologist Offers 3 Tips To De- Catastrophize Your Anxious Thoughts
Telling someone to stop catastrophizing or think differently doesn’t work. The ritual application (and practice) of mindfulness is one avenue to lowering the repetitiveness or frequency of such thoughts. I always suggest practicing the mantra in quiet and calm places so that it has power in chaotic situations. This article offers a few solid practices for decreasing catastrophic thinking.
19.02.2023
Some people who have autism and Asperger's think in pictures. Kinda like Google Images.
The link to the TED Talk by Professor Temple Grandin is—by itself—worth viewing this article. She is am adult on the Autism Spectrum who has worked to help educators and parents understand this “superpower.” All of us interact with people who are neurodiverse and it behooves us to learn more about how they are different from the neurotypical.
18.02.2023
When a Loved One Is in the Grip of Despair
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/14/opinion/letters/love-depression-suicide.html
The author of this article, David Brooks, is one of my favorite contemporary commentators. He has a weekly commentary on Fridays during the PBS News Hour, currently with co-commentator, Jonathan Capehart. After Senator John Fetterman bravely revealed he was checking into a hospital for severe depression, Brooks wrote this compelling piece about a friend who suffered from despair. As typical of Brooks, his insightful commentator shares the good and the bad. What he felt he did right and what he would have done differently.
17.02.2023
To help students get jobs, faculty must learn new skills (opinion)
We can’t lead people towards a gentler, more awe-filled lives, if we are not pursuing one ourselves. One of my favorite teachers (now a principal in Saskatchewan) would never call a child by their name unless it was to offer them specific public praise. Such teachers learn the use of new cognitive skills to build the well-being of children. With constant advances in technology and behavioral sciences advancing cumulatively, remaining a learning, open-minded person is imperative. This article focuses on teachers becoming conduits for youth to increase their community involvement. In the world of our children’s futures, they will need to become super-prompters and community builders. It’s never too early to start, but it does begin with leaders (teachers, administrators, staff and parents).
16.02.2023
Positive Parenting and Children's Cognitive Development
Positive parenting, like positive psychology is firmly established with decades of research behind it. In essence, positive psychology has studied the strengths in people and how to grow them rather than just the deficits in humanity and how to correct them. This article will explain more about this branch of psychology and applied parenting practices.
15.02.2023
How to get your kids to talk about their feelings
https://theconversation.com/how-to-get-your-kids-to-talk-about-their-feelings-194336
The transition from childhood to adulthood must include the ability to process intense feelings with words instead of just actions. An analogy I use is that adolescence is a time in our lives when our emotions—often intense—are carried in an ungainly suitcase without handles or latches. As we walk through crowded places, people inevitably bump into us destabilizing our load. Eventually we will drop the suitcase and it will bust open in front of a crowd. Helping young people grow words for their emotions (the contents of the suitcase) doesn’t make the bag any lighter, but it does make it easier to carry and allow us the ability to unlatch it in our own appropriate setting.
This Week’s Links
21.02.2023
If You Have Trouble Taking Slow, Deep Breaths, Think Instead About Breathing ‘Softly’
https://www.wellandgood.com/soft-breathing-technique/
An 85-year Harvard study on the key to happiness could spell trouble for introverts—unless you know these 2 tricks
20.02.2023
A Psychologist Offers 3 Tips To De- Catastrophize Your Anxious Thoughts
Leveraging ChatGPT: Practical Ideas for Educators
https://www.ascd.org/blogs/leveraging-chatgpt-practical-ideas-for-educators?mibextid=lURqYx
17 Things Parents of Children on the Autism Spectrum Want You to Know
Dr. Randy Cale’s Terrific Parenting: Parents: Help for the child with ADD/ADHD
"Phubbing" Is Associated With Lower Social Intelligence – But There's Good News
3 Pillars of a Happy Life
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/202302/3-pillars-of-a-happy-life
Children need compassion and understanding — not punishments and judgment
19.02.2023
Some people who have autism and Asperger's think in pictures. Kinda like Google Images.
How To Help Kids With ADHD Manage Their Feelings At School & With Friends
https://www.yourtango.com/family/help-kids-adhd-manage-feelings
10 pieces of well-worn life advice you may need to hear right now
https://apple.news/AetasWvzWRcG-6YM5BYeeJg
18.02.2023
When a Loved One Is in the Grip of Despair
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/14/opinion/letters/love-depression-suicide.html
America Should Be in the Middle of a Schools Revolution
https://www.nytimes.com/2023/02/16/opinion/america-schools-revolution.html
The neuroscience of beauty: What your brain finds beautiful – and how this shapes your thoughts
https://www.sciencefocus.com/science/the-neuroscience-of-beauty/
Your middle school child is the most amazing person
https://www.cnn.com/2023/02/17/health/middle-school-children-wellness/
The Impact of ADHD on Academic Performance
6 Signs You Have Profound Emotional Trauma (And You’re Unaware Of It)
https://www.yourtango.com/self/signs-profound-emotional-trauma
Happiness Is in Your Hormones. Ways to Naturally Boost Dopamine and Serotonin
Some Schools Are Prioritizing More Sleep for Kids. Is It Making a Difference?
https://www.edutopia.org/article/school-start-time-changes-benefit-sleep/
New study finds immunity from Covid infection provides strong protection
17.02.2023
To help students get jobs, faculty must learn new skills (opinion)
It's Time to Take Teenage Mental Health Seriously
What Drives Children to Choose Compassion?
https://neurosciencenews.com/compassion-children-22519/
3 therapist-recommended online therapy platforms for teens and tips for finding the right therapist
https://www.insider.com/guides/health/mental-health/online-therapy-for-teens
Do You Want to Be Right—Or Do You Want to Be Happy?
https://www.esquire.com/lifestyle/a42209888/right-or-happy-relationships/
Black History, Uncensored: Nikole Hannah-Jones took GOPers to school
Ronald DeSantis Is Leading Florida to Freedom, One Ban at a Time
https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a42888929/ron-desantis-banned-list/
Chelsea Handler rips Tucker Carlson to shreds for mocking her child-free life
16.02.2023
Positive Parenting and Children's Cognitive Development
Why College Students Are More Disengaged Than Ever
https://www.insidehook.com/daily_brief/news-opinion/college-students-disengaged
ChatGPT won’t take this job: The most in-demand skill is something only humans can do
Why U.S. teens aren't getting their driver's licenses
https://theweek.com/travel/1020987/why-us-teens-arent-getting-their-drivers-licenses
How We Need to Radically Rethink Conscious Awareness
Winners of the 2022 Travel Photographer of the Year Contest
15.02.2023
How to get your kids to talk about their feelings
https://theconversation.com/how-to-get-your-kids-to-talk-about-their-feelings-194336
'Why Can't I Change?' The 16 Voices in Your Head Stopping You From Reaching Your Dreams
People with social anxiety tend to engage in restrictive “safety behaviors” that make them less likable, study finds
Kindness Starts With You: How to Show Up for Yourself
Is Oxytocin Really the Love Hormone?
https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/is_oxytocin_really_the_love_hormone
Beyond Rosa and Harriet: Black History Picture Book Biographies
https://bookriot.com/black-history-picture-book-biographies/
More Black Families Are Considering Home-Schooling — And It Shouldn't Be A Shock As To Why
https://apple.news/AyOmRU_4vQcO5dqF4teOP9Q
The rise of ChatGPT shows why we need a clearer approach to technology in schools
Inside Our Autistic Minds review – this beautiful documentary will make you see the world differently
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
We learn WHAT we value, from WHO values us. Teaching young people values (valor) and character (caracter) as well as learning about Prompt Engineering all in this week’s review.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 42 (144 total reports)
08.02.2023-14.02.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
We learn WHAT we value, from WHO values us. Teaching young people values (valor) and character (caracter) as well as learning about Prompt Engineering all in this week’s review.
This Week’s Top Links
14.02.2023
Sal Khan to Schools: Don't Ban ChatGPT
https://www.edweek.org/technology/sal-khan-to-schools-dont-ban-chatgpt/2023/02
Sal Khan is one of my go-to voices in education. He is the founder of the Khan Academy and I have suggested his education site to many leaders of young people in institutions. I found his insight around ChatGPT refreshing. We don’t prepare young people for the future by banning anything—content or technology. Wise educators find a way to incorporate innovative concepts and techniques into their teaching rather than try and ban them.
13.02.2023
To fight student disengagement, real-world projects can help
Classroom learning may be the last vestige of a system that uses authoritarian methods to raise widgets for a manufacturing economy that no longer exists. One of the greatest gifts we MUST give our children is the ability to create healthy communities in the real-world. Let’s teach them ways to identify what is healthy and to grow lifelong connections with supportive people.
12.02.2023
These Simple Questions Are Relationship Super Glue
https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/a42758010/questions-to-ask-partner/
It doesn’t matter whether you’re building a deeper relationship with co-workers, children or family, these questions will help. Read them and give them a try today.
11.02.2023
The Quest for Character: What the Story of Socrates and Alcibiades Teaches Us About Our Search for Good Leaders
I’m so happy to see this story of Socrates and Alcibiades getting dusted off the shelf and put into the public eye. The timing couldn’t be more important. What I fear is that educators will see this article and approach character-development in a traditional classroom manner. “We know what is best for your character and will come up with a list of character traits that WE will tell you about and YOU will learn. Then, we will test you on your retention at the end of the semester.” Children come to school with values already growing in them. We learn WHAT we value by WHO values us. We need to create opportunities for children to express the values already growing in them and then practice them in a real-world environment.
10.02.2023
Praise The Process, Not The Talent: How To Build A Growth Mindset In Kids
https://www.fatherly.com/health/develop-growth-mindset-kids
Specific Public Praise is one of the greatest motivational tools any leader possesses. Unfortunately, poor praise actually damages people. Learn the difference between praise that grows empowers and praise that disables in this important article.
09.02.2023
The Most Important Job Skill of This Century
This article links to the first article on our list about ChatGPT. If you’re not familiar with the concept of Prompting, take time to read both of these articles. The article from today’s reading “Don’t Ban ChatGPT” points to a Prompt Engineer making $275,000 a year.
08.02.2023
The Hidden Toll of Microstress
https://hbr.org/2023/02/the-hidden-toll-of-microstress
The cumulative effect of microstress can be as damaging as a major adverse event. Worse still, microstressors are often invisible and easily dismissed. What are some microstressors in your world and the world of your children. If you have neurodiverse children, these microstressors are even more immediate and debilitating.
This Week’s Links
14.02.2023
Sal Khan to Schools: Don't Ban ChatGPT
https://www.edweek.org/technology/sal-khan-to-schools-dont-ban-chatgpt/2023/02
How to Coax Post-Traumatic Growth
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-stories-we-tell/202302/how-to-coax-post-traumatic-growth
Things People Misunderstand About Anxiety
How ChatGPT can actually help promote equity in college admissions
New research finds that teens are more resilient when fathers are present
Hold Your Team Accountable with Compassion, Not Fear
https://hbr.org/2023/02/hold-your-team-accountable-with-compassion-not-fear
21 Fascinating Charts That Will Teach You Something
https://www.buzzfeed.com/mikespohr/21-charts-that-will-teach-you-things
13.02.2023
To fight student disengagement, real-world projects can help
‘Out of our mind excited:’ PBS Kids show exhibit brings Alaska Native values to life
5 of the best online AI and ChatGPT courses available for free this week
https://mashable.com/uk/deals/free-online-ai-chatgpt-courses
8 signs your child might have anxiety and what parents can do to help, according to experts
https://www.chroniclelive.co.uk/news/uk-news/8-signs-your-child-might-26195596
How you can support mentees in growing their careers
https://qz.com/how-you-can-support-mentees-in-growing-their-careers-1850099552
12.02.2023
These Simple Questions Are Relationship Super Glue
https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/relationships-love/a42758010/questions-to-ask-partner/
Secrets of a child psychologist: ‘A lot of schools may be actively harming our children right now’
Researchers identify a potential neural signature of social belonging
What attachment styles can — and can’t — explain
https://www.vox.com/even-better/23581174/attachment-styles-explain-anxious-avoidant-secure
Emotionally Intelligent People Use a Brilliant Six-Word Phrase to Stop Passive Aggressive Behavior and Strengthen Their Relationships
Therapists say these cheap, clever fidget toys are life-changing because they can actually help reduce your anxiety
11.02.2023
The Quest for Character: What the Story of Socrates and Alcibiades Teaches Us About Our Search for Good Leaders
Overcoming Negative Self-Talk
https://tricycle.org/article/negative-self-talk/
How to Be Happier: Proven Ways to Boost Your Mood and Feel More Connected and Content in Life
https://www.rd.com/article/how-to-be-happy/
An 85-year Harvard study found the No. 1 thing that makes us happy in life: It helps us 'live longer'
10.02.2023
Praise The Process, Not The Talent: How To Build A Growth Mindset In Kids
https://www.fatherly.com/health/develop-growth-mindset-kids
How to offer help when you don’t know what to say
https://www.vox.com/even-better/23589570/offer-help-support-validation
Nearly a quarter of a million kids are ‘missing’ from American high schools after the pandemic
National media coverage fails to accurately cover DeSantis’ dystopian crusade against public education
09.02.2023
The Most Important Job Skill of This Century
The Hidden Toll of Microstress
https://hbr.org/2023/02/the-hidden-toll-of-microstress
Introverts Think Differently
Want to avoid heated arguments? Try this technique before having a difficult conversation
12 Of The Best New Children’s Books Out February 2023
https://bookriot.com/february-2023-new-childrens-books/
Nietzsche’s 3 Key Concepts: Sense, Truth & Value
https://www.thecollector.com/nietzsche-philosophy-sense-truth-value/
Virginia House passes bills to forcibly out trans kids & ban them from sports
North Carolina senate passes “Don’t Say Gay” bill that would out trans kids to their families
08.02.2023
The Hidden Toll of Microstress
https://hbr.org/2023/02/the-hidden-toll-of-microstress
A Dietitian’s Top 5 Tips for Boosting Your Mood and Energy Levels—Without a Drop of Caffeine
https://www.wellandgood.com/how-to-boost-energy/
16 Absolute Best Ted Lasso Quotes: An Iconic TV Character Can Inspire Change
https://yourteenmag.com/stuff-we-love/best-ted-lasso-quotes
Tips to Manage ADHD in Children
https://www.sportskeeda.com/health-and-fitness/tips-manage-adhd-children
Whether it's a new teacher or class – here's what to do when your child is not loving it
Study finds harsh maternal discipline can leave daughters vulnerable to anxiety and depression
2 Ways to Stay Friends With People Who Have Strong Opinions
Tips to Manage ADHD in Children
https://www.sportskeeda.com/health-and-fitness/tips-manage-adhd-children
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
The twin goals of education must be wonder and compassion (asombro y compasión). What and how we learn won’t matter if we don’t answer the question of WHY we learn.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 42 (144 total reports)
26.01.2023-07.02.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
The twin goals of education must be wonder and compassion (asombro y compasión). What and how we learn won’t matter if we don’t answer the question of WHY we learn.
This Week’s Top Links
07.02.2023
10 Things Every Child Needs To Hear From Their Parents To Live A Great Life
https://www.yourtango.com/family/things-every-child-needs-hear-from-parents-live-great-life
It is important to remember that being a good parent (or staff member at a facility that works with young people), is more about being consistent than perfect. Yet, there are messages that children will thrive if they hear regularly. I would suggest posting the list in this article on the wall of your staff room or the refrigerator of your home so that we can regularly remember the important statements.
06.02.2023
‘Invasion of privacy’: Some Florida athletes leery of being made to reveal menstrual cycles
https://www.bradenton.com/news/local/education/article272106242.html
There is a malevolent purpose behind this action. It is more than an invasion of privacy, it is a step towards moral authoritarianism. I don’t think it is possible to be too alarmist behind the direction that DeSantis is taking Florida in his path towards the presidency. At the least, this should serve as an alarm bell to the direction that his supporters and he would take the country—not just the State—given the opportunity.
05.02.2023
Critical Thinking Isn't Enough. Time for Critical Ignoring. | FlaglerLive
https://flaglerlive.com/185911/critical-ignoring/
I know many people who are simply overwhelmed by doom scrolling. The underlying factor is not just the amount of negative news they consume (and it is a consumption addiction), but the loss of locus of control. There is news (people) out there that we should ignore. We need to remember that reading an article tells the AI of that publisher that people will consume that news. They, in turn, feed the people who will do anything (lie, cheat, steal, commit violence) to gain attention. It wouldn’t hurt to create your own list of people (news) whose ideas you want to intentionally starve. I think that in addition to Critical Ignoring, we need to teach each other that “clicking” is a political action that feeds poor behavior.
04.02.2023
Low Income and Its Effects on Mental Health
https://www.verywellmind.com/low-income-and-its-effects-on-mental-health-7097946
When we look at the effects of low income on mental health, education and crime, we can’t help but see the links created by not addressing poverty in our society. Robert Reich offered two terms this week that I’m digesting. It regards the role of policing in our community and is very timely considering another example of horrific police brutality in the US. He urges us to ask if our funds are being spent for Social Involvement or Social Enforcement. Underlying this is the politics of fear. A politics of fear will create an environment favoring social enforcement. The policies and politics of fear lead to a massive amount of wasted money in cities, countries and the world. Take time for discussions this week on how a society that bases spending priorities on involvement and equality would look different than one based upon fear and enforcement.
03.02.2023
ChatGPT: The AI tech that's revolutionizing teaching
https://phys.org/news/2023-02-chatgpt-ai-tech-revolutionizing.html
If a computer can do what we do, it will. It doesn’t matter if that is what we want, it is the economics of what will happen. Almost anything repetitive will be replaced by a machine. All too often institutions that are slow to change (like religion or education—even labor) see the latest trends in technology as a threat. Their gut instinct is to seek a way to morally “ban” the advancement. A better reflection is to ask why we are still doing repetitive exercises in schools that a computer could do. Our future lies in creativity and wonder, not litanies and repetition. The sign that education (or a class) is effective is that—at the end of it—the student (AND the teacher) say, “Wow! I want to learn more about this.” The true test of an educator is not that his/her students get A’s, but that they want to explore the topic and its potential applications further.
02.02.2023
A Path to Well-Being: Rediscover the Joy of Play
https://www.shondaland.com/live/body/a42709766/a-path-to-well-being-rediscover-the-joy-of-play/
Play is the most effective means of learning regardless of age, but especially in children. As we work with children (or even adults that we are teaching or training), we must constantly ask ourselves, “How can my students play with this knowledge?” This article shows us that play is not just a key to learning, but also a key to well-being. Ask yourself, “How do I play?” Think of play as a moment when you are totally lost in an activity and therefore living in the immediate present. Athletes call this focus, psychologists call this transient hypofrontality. Moments when the person is so involved they lose perspective of all else. At those moments, the frontal lobe shuts down and we aren’t busy judging or being over-critical, we are just ensconced in the moment. In order to be totally available to others, we need to create moments when we are totally available to ourselves. That’s the purpose of play. Play doesn’t have to be silly or fun, it is just a moment of becoming lost to our critical selves. It might mean writing, music—most of the arts—it could be conversations, relationships. Just make time to “Get Lost!”
01.02.2023
What could the school of 2050 look like?
https://www.sciencefocus.com/future-technology/the-school-of-2050-technology-education/
I enjoyed the projections in this article, but I will say, that most articles about future education focus on technological changes. Whereas my experience of technology in institutions is that it is used FIRST for administration and accounting. Slowly, we begin to fund technology to support learning. But between the adoption (and exploration) of learning and the application of teaching stands a number of roadblocks: educators who don’t want to change, administrators who don’t want to change and communities that fear change. The biggest changes in learning need to be freeing the human mind and spirit to grow both wonder and compassion. Unless we overcome the politics of fear and authoritarianism, I don’t see schools changing much at all—except for accountants and administrators.Just ask how much these institutions have really changed in the last thirty years and what they real roadblocks to change have been and currently are.
This Week’s Links
07.02.2023
10 Things Every Child Needs To Hear From Their Parents To Live A Great Life
https://www.yourtango.com/family/things-every-child-needs-hear-from-parents-live-great-life
What To Do When Your Kid Says They Hate School
https://apple.news/AaiZT62rISm-pznmFrlZsUw
How To Let Go Of Resentment Once And For All
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-let-go-of-resentment
06.02.2023
‘Invasion of privacy’: Some Florida athletes leery of being made to reveal menstrual cycles
https://www.bradenton.com/news/local/education/article272106242.html
Powerful Learning Is All About Retrieval
https://www.ascd.org/el/articles/powerful-learning-is-all-about-retrieval?es_p=11633612
When my dad was sick, I started Googling grief. Then I couldn’t escape it.
A Psychologist Suggests 2 Ways To Care For A Loved One Who Is Struggling With Anxiety
Asking teens about suicide may raise odds they'll get help
https://www.upi.com/Health_News/2023/02/06/asking-teen-suicide-help/5091675438558/
7 New Books That Will Help You Reinvent Your Life, Recommended by Adam Grant
Trust Is Eroding: 2 Ways Leaders Can Rebuild It
https://www.forbes.com/sites/tracybrower/2023/02/05/trust-is-eroding-2-ways-leaders-can-rebuild-it/
05.02.2023
Critical Thinking Isn't Enough. Time for Critical Ignoring. | FlaglerLive
https://flaglerlive.com/185911/critical-ignoring/
Making Great Relationships: Simple Practices for Solving Conflicts, Building Connection, and Fostering Love
Accept Yourself Unconditionally (Even When You’re Struggling)
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/accept-unconditionally-even-youre-struggling/
Harvard psychiatrist says this is the secret to happiness
04.02.2023
Low Income and Its Effects on Mental Health
https://www.verywellmind.com/low-income-and-its-effects-on-mental-health-7097946
ChatGPT is the best thing to happen to teaching since the Socratic method
Here's why you should make a habit of having more fun
https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/02/04/1150518287/fun-play-happiness-stress-reduction
5 New Books to Help You Stay Present, Calm, and Focused
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/5-new-books-help-stay-present-calm-focused/39588/
The 15 Best Online Learning Services for Kids for 2023
03.02.2023
ChatGPT: The AI tech that's revolutionizing teaching
https://phys.org/news/2023-02-chatgpt-ai-tech-revolutionizing.html
Politicians Can’t Just Go Around Censoring Ideas That Anger Them
Grit or quit? How to help your child develop resilience
https://theconversation.com/grit-or-quit-how-to-help-your-child-develop-resilience-195195
Struggling to communicate with your teen? You might be making this classic mistake
https://www.mother.ly/teen/tips-for-communicating-with-teens/
15 Things To Say To Your Kids Instead Of 'No'
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/parents-kids-say-instead-no_l_63dad9cce4b01e92886ec4ed
02.02.2023
A Path to Well-Being: Rediscover the Joy of Play
https://www.shondaland.com/live/body/a42709766/a-path-to-well-being-rediscover-the-joy-of-play/
Why America needs inclusive curriculums and diverse educators
https://apple.news/ApyAjEly0T7G04uC9aLjCHg
How America Lost Its Grip on Reality
https://apple.news/A-og0-_fjSAqfmu4EuU8tYQ
What the Longest Study on Human Happiness Found Is the Key to a Good Life
https://apple.news/A5hQ0-pBkRVmNn-9i2wAd8g
The 'guinea pig' generation: How the pandemic shaped this year's college freshmen
https://apple.news/A678X4RC8QbeW7p0q9qDfXg
How to take in traumatic news events and preserve your mental health
https://apple.news/A5Eq5DYz2SBqnoeYvi0G2dw
01.02.2023
What could the school of 2050 look like?
https://www.sciencefocus.com/future-technology/the-school-of-2050-technology-education/
America’s Lack of Paid Leave Is Devastating Women and Families
https://msmagazine.com/2023/01/31/paid-leave-fmla/
Teaching Students to Analyze Fake News
https://www.edutopia.org/article/teaching-rhetorical-analysis-news/
Want to boost your happiness? Buy experiences, not material possessions
https://bigthink.com/sponsored/buy-experiences-not-material-possessions/
Parenting Teenage Boys in the Age of Online Influencers
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Expectations and fears that lead to violence. How do we empower ourselves—and those we lead—to live a more quiet and confident life?
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 41 (143 total reports)
25.01.2023-31.01.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Expectations and fears that lead to violence. How do we empower ourselves—and those we lead—to live a more quiet and confident life?
This Week’s Top Links
31.01.2023
Want To Feel Less Depressed? Try an Act of Kindness.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/5d3xjq/depression-anxiety-act-of-kindness-study
It has been my observation that the greatest roadblocks to well-being are expectations. What we assume others expect of us or what we expect of ourselves. What we should really expect from life is joy. Joy is the fruit of being happier and this article shows that the most effective way to be happier is to seek to help others be happier. Instead of dwelling on missed expectations, make a habit of asking, “how can I make someone happier today?” It could be someone in my personal relationships or someone in my community. There are always ways to exercise this opportunity and it never has to be complicated.
30.01.2023
How to Stop Hurrying
https://tricycle.org/article/how-stop-hurrying/
I was enthralled by this article and it’s valuable insights. It made me remember to “lean into” THIS moment. On my best days, I use the sleepy hours before full alertness to repeat my mantra; “Q,R,S; Quiet my mind, Relax my body, Smile…” To quiet my mind means to lean into the now. To be aware and grateful for those people and circumstances in my life at this moment. If I am gratefully centered in the moment during those quiet waking hours, I can take that mantra and use it effectively during more stressful times throughout my day. But it all begins with a full tank of gratitude before I rise in the morning.
29.01.2023
Stop Punishing Poverty in Schools
Let this article serve as a primer for searching your institution for ways in which poverty is punished. There are subtle methods easily overlooked in a variety of activities and the reward systems of educational cultures. Dedicate a staff meeting to rooting out these undermining attitudes and activities and get your students talking openly about it as well.
28.01.2023
9 Ways To Stop Catastrophic Thinking When You Always Expect The Worst
https://www.yourtango.com/self/how-to-stop-catastrophizing
Catastrophic thinking is the worst. It is the brain’s evolutionary defense ability run amok. Learning to bodycheck this debilitating habit is crucial to a healthy life. Like so many habits, re-routing this defense mechanism doesn’t come naturally and we need help through co-regulation to strengthen our cognitive ability to replace such thought patterns.
27.01.2023
The 14th Amendment's Time to Shine Has Come
https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/politics/a42673425/14th-amendment-debt-ceiling/
When the 14th Amendment is under attack (as it has been under the GOP), you know that personal rights are going to be affected. We need to learn more about this important constitutional amendment and its link to personal and democratic freedom. It is important to understand why it is under attack by both conservative politicians and evangelical religious leaders.
26.01.2023
Viral Justice: How We Grow the World We Want
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/viral-justice-grow-world-want-bookbite/39304/
Explore the important concept of “weathering” and how it impacts the way we deal with the many stressors inherent in today’s media cacophony. This book also examines the way that funding of schools and the curricula in education affects the society we are creating.
25.01.2023
How to stop stressing about things you can’t control
Being in control is a myth that threatens our mental health. I’ve seen it undermine many institutions surrounding our children and throughout the workplace. The most damaging aspect is that the people who often have the greatest need for control live in compulsive fear and that fear can drive their motivation towards leadership. Such dark motivation can lie latent for years before finally revealing itself under stress. I would go so far as to say that it is this latent need for control that drives what is most damaging in the police state that results in situations like George Floyd and Tyre Nichols. The political ploy of using fear as a motivator for votes in the areas of immigration, crime and culture wars will only spawn more trends of coercive violence in our social relationships and institutions.
This Week’s Links
31.01.2023
Want To Feel Less Depressed? Try an Act of Kindness.
https://www.vice.com/en/article/5d3xjq/depression-anxiety-act-of-kindness-study
Coercive Control Takes Significant Toll on Children
https://neurosciencenews.com/coercive-control-children-22402/
COVID-19 led to largest learning disruption in history
Recognize the Truth of Others’ Pain
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-wise-brain/202301/recognize-the-truth-of-others-pain-0
How a Parent’s Experience at Work Impacts Their Kids
https://hbr.org/2023/01/how-a-parents-experience-at-work-impacts-their-kids
How To Be More Intentional In Every Area of Your Life
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-be-more-intentional
5 Signs Your Kid Is Highly Sensitive — & How To Parent Them
https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/highly-sensitive-child-signs
30.01.2023
How to Stop Hurrying
https://tricycle.org/article/how-stop-hurrying/
Educator’s View: Restorative Justice Can’t Work If There Aren’t Enough Teachers
At What Age Should a Kid Get a Phone? We Asked a Therapist, a Digital Safety Expert and Fellow Parents
Why Teachers are Quitting
Three Big Takeaways from Educational Leadership’s Report on Remote Learning
A Single Practice to Transform and Potentially Extend Life
Cognitive control serves to override the moral default in both honesty and dishonesty
29.01.2023
Stop Punishing Poverty in Schools
'Everybody is cheating': Why this teacher has adopted an open ChatGPT policy
https://apple.news/An2IddILTSnKkdPUTOB_i4w
Silencing Our Inner Critic After Attachment Trauma
28.01.2023
9 Ways To Stop Catastrophic Thinking When You Always Expect The Worst
https://www.yourtango.com/self/how-to-stop-catastrophizing
Yale University’s most popular class is now free for teenagers—why it could make you happier
27.01.2023
The 14th Amendment's Time to Shine Has Come
https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/politics/a42673425/14th-amendment-debt-ceiling/
How the Experience of Awe Can Improve Your Well-Being
Therapy Out of Reach? These 4 Tips Will Promote Better Mental Health
Be aware of this great obstacle to happiness … and how to overcome it
https://aleteia.org/2023/01/26/be-aware-of-this-great-obstacle-to-happiness-and-how-to-overcome-it/
Evidence Is Mounting That Covid Is Bad for the Brain
26.01.2023
Viral Justice: How We Grow the World We Want
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/viral-justice-grow-world-want-bookbite/39304/
Meet the 5 Teachers Being Considered for National Teacher of the Year
How Does It Feel to Have Inattentive-Type ADHD?
25.01.2023
How to stop stressing about things you can’t control
Use These 4 Self-Care Rituals for More Resilience and Less Depletion
Break Negative Thinking With These 6 Mental Health Exercises
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/break-negative-thinking-with-these-6-mental-health-exercises/
101 Silly & Insightful Would You Rather Questions For Kids
https://www.romper.com/parenting/would-you-rather-questions-for-kids
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Conversations about gun possession, teaching self-soothing, the fears behind why we talk too much. Inspirational links and pictures to help you guide young people this week.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 40 (142 total reports)
18.01.2023-24.01.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Conversations about gun possession, teaching self-soothing, the fears behind why we talk too much. Inspirational links and pictures to help you guide young people this week.
This Week’s Top Links
24.01.2023
On Mute: Overtalkers Are Everywhere— But Saying Less Will Get You More
https://apple.news/A0MncUzoEQxG1CY6WbsYV_g
We often associate being heard with being accepted and so our approval feels like it’s dwindling when we aren’t the center of attention. This misconception actually undermines our ability to be respected and turned to when people truly need a friend. It also prevents us from being heard when we really need a friend.
23.01.2023
Why We Need Civics
https://apple.news/Ae1b87qCmSjGlbmS2ka5WVw
Teaching civics did not make the cut list in STEM curriculi, but one look around our world’s political scene—and many holiday dinner scenes—should tell us why civics should be a must-have in education today.
22.01.2023
The 4 Things That Make Your Life Meaningful | Next Big Idea Club
https://nextbigideaclub.com/conversation-the-4-things-that-make-your-life-meaningful/15180/
I believe that our core goal in working with young people should be to help them live meaningful lives independent of us. This article can lead to an insightful discussion of the core components of a meaningful life that we must be passing on. Have this discussion with your partner, your staff or with anyone who guides children.
21.01.2023
It’s an awkward conversation, but you have to talk to other parents about guns, experts say
https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/20/health/playdate-gun-safety-wellness/
One quote I read this week that really impacted me was, “America is the ONLY country in the world where shooters have their own lobbyists in government.” A number of years ago, my nephew had a friend over for breakfast who brought a gun. Brett did not survive the visit and his family has been devastated ever since. It is a difficult but necessary conversation we must have with the parent(s) of our children’s friends and this article offers insights into how to initiate this conversation.
20.01.2023
Yale research: Highly successful people argue differently
https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/19/yale-researchers-how-highly-successful-people-argue.html
This excellent article gave me two valuable insights into the realm of difficult conversations; am I arguing to win or arguing to learn? Good communicators—and leaders—argue to learn.
19.01.2023
How to get better at practicing self-compassion
The first step to practicing self-compassion is abolishing the myth of perfection in our lives. That we have to be perfect, that others have to be perfect or that our parents should have been perfect. This can even apply to the institutions around us; our work, our social systems or our religious institutions. If we acknowledge that perfection is a myth and perfectionism is a debilitating mindset, then we can begin the process of choosing forgiveness.
18.01.2023
Eight of the Best Self-Soothing Techniques for Little Kids
https://lifehacker.com/eight-of-the-best-self-soothing-techniques-for-little-k-1849985033
We do not learn to soothe ourselves naturally, someone must lead us. Sadly, some people never learn the methods of self-soothing but they are essential if we are to be healthy guides for our children. Examine this article for excellent techniques to help young ones learn to soothe themselves.
This Week’s Links
24.01.2023
On Mute: Overtalkers Are Everywhere— But Saying Less Will Get You More
https://apple.news/A0MncUzoEQxG1CY6WbsYV_g
America's Obsession with Its Guns Is a Sickness
https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/politics/a42619622/california-shooting-monterey-park/
Getting Kids Outdoors Can Reduce the Negative Effects of Screen Time - Neuroscience News
https://neurosciencenews.com/screen-time-nature-22333/
People love this mom's sassy but honest answers in her 4-year-old's school progress form
Stress can build up inside us over time. Here’s what happens when it goes unrelieved.
Start With Stillness: How Just 5 Minutes of Silence In The Morning Could Change Your Life
https://hive.com/blog/morning-stillness/
23.01.2023
Why We Need Civics
https://apple.news/Ae1b87qCmSjGlbmS2ka5WVw
These Are the Thinking Habits Most Likely to Destroy Your Life, According to a Therapist
https://apple.news/A1B8Pl6m-QtOsoVtqtdJf3g
How to handle a defensive personality, according to a psychologist
Anxiety is a complex disorder but can be managed – Ali Roff Farrar tells us how
https://apple.news/AxXSPZYf_T1elEXewvr8drw
Why Do You Get Sick in the Winter? Blame Your Nose
https://apple.news/AHL-vRNfAT7yg8bPnbvQ8IA
Mindfulness exercises can be as effective as anxiety drugs, study shows
https://apple.news/Ae0Le6-zvTIKNgjyIRsmwJw
When a Wrong Can’t Be Righted: How to Deal With Regret - Tiny Buddha
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/when-a-wrong-cant-be-righted-how-to-deal-with-regret/
4 Noticeable Habits You'll Find In Exceptionally Happy People
22.01.2023
The 4 Things That Make Your Life Meaningful | Next Big Idea Club
https://nextbigideaclub.com/conversation-the-4-things-that-make-your-life-meaningful/15180/
Close Relationships With Parents Promote Healthier Brain Development in High-Risk Teens, Buffering Against Alcohol Use Disorder
https://neurosciencenews.com/aud-teen-parent-22319/
21.01.2023
It’s an awkward conversation, but you have to talk to other parents about guns, experts say
https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/20/health/playdate-gun-safety-wellness/
The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: Raising Connected, Capable, and Compassionate Adolescents
https://www.publishersweekly.com/9780593500019
Michael J. Fox Sundance Documentary Review: Audience Moved to Tears
20.01.2023
Yale research: Highly successful people argue differently
https://www.cnbc.com/2023/01/19/yale-researchers-how-highly-successful-people-argue.html
Move Over, Prozac. Some of the Most Effective Antidepressants Aren’t Drugs at All
Five Challenges for Schools in 2023
Florida’s Ban on an AP African American Studies Class Is Authoritarian
https://www.thedailybeast.com/floridas-ban-on-an-ap-african-american-studies-class-is-authoritarian
15 Questions to Ask Yourself That Will Make This Year More Productive, Fulfilling, and Meaningful
How to Self Soothe Using Your 5 Senses
How To Explain Love To Little Kids
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-explain-love-to-little-kids
19.01.2023
How to get better at practicing self-compassion
Life Is Fragile: Make Time for What Matters and Let Go of What Doesn’t - Tiny Buddha
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/life-is-fragile-make-time-for-what-matters-and-let-go-of-what-doesnt/
‘I’m a Neuroscientist, and This Is How To Stop Past Thoughts From Lingering’
https://www.wellandgood.com/how-to-clear-mind-of-past-thoughts/
The Advantage of Being a Neurodivergent Thinker
18.01.2023
Eight of the Best Self-Soothing Techniques for Little Kids
https://lifehacker.com/eight-of-the-best-self-soothing-techniques-for-little-k-1849985033
The 5 Simple-But-Effective Ways I Connect With My Teen
https://www.sheknows.com/parenting/articles/2700806/simple-ways-connect-with-teen/
8 Subtle Ways Parents Create Anxiety Without Realizing It
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/parents-kids-anxiety-subtle_l_63c1eb61e4b0d6f0ba04f867
Jung’s Most Controversial Idea: What is the Collective Unconscious?
https://www.thecollector.com/carl-jung-controversial-idea-what-is-collective-unconscious/
You Are Enough Just as You Are—but It's OK To Seek Self-Improvement Too
https://www.verywellmind.com/you-are-enough-self-improvement-finding-balance-7093355
5 Positive Thoughts for When You Feel Awful
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Healthy habits of adults and helping young people acquire them. Learning self-discipline and passing it on is this week’s theme.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 39 (141 total reports)
11.01.2023-17.01.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Healthy habits of adults and helping young people acquire them. Learning self-discipline and passing it on is this week’s theme.
This Week’s Top Links
17.01.2023
'Pseudomutuality': Why it takes so long to spot narcissistic abuse
https://apple.news/AcnY8oO2ZR8ONh3wJlYSaxA
Even a narcissistic can show compassionate behavior (mutuality)—when it is in their self-interest. This Psuedomutuality seems inviting but is dangerously false. Help others (and yourself) spot the difference between true mutuality in relationships and this false brand.
16.01.2023
Building self-discipline by age 27 is crucial, says expert: 3 ways to do it
https://apple.news/AU4ciy7DzSrWv3M4dg5n6Nw
This article reviews three levels of self-discipline that are required for a meaningful adult life. However, it isn’t just for adults. Because self-discipline is an acquired trait, we can help tweens, teens and young adults prepare for these steps to a fulfilling life.
15.01.2023
Emotionally Intelligent People Know How to Listen. Here Are 5 Things They Do Different
Like self-discipline, listening is an acquired behavior that requires behavior and practice. Being unable to really listen to others is a sign of low internal discipline and personal imbalance. To go into each day prepared to actively listen to others needs requires a great deal of balance and mindfulness. When I’m unable to really listen it undermines my relationships and reveals my lack of balance.
14.01.2023
The Art of Conscious Conversations: Transforming How We Talk, Listen, and Interact
This is a phrase that will become a part of my daily check list; did I have conscious conversations with people in my day? It requires not just checking in with myself, but also stepping back and observing the content of my relationships. This “meta-viewpoint” is a guide to personal depth and the quality of my relationships. What practices do I need to develop to enhance my ability to turn more of my conversations into Conscious Conversations?
12/01.2023
Freudenfreude Might Be Just What Your Friendships Are Missing
https://apple.news/Ai6xcNxy7RT-9G0hiQfsnvA
There is a German folk saying, “Pain shared is pain halved, Joy shared is Joy doubled.” This is called the Capitalization Theory and while Freudenfrede is not an actual German word—the author uses it to contradict the concept of Schadenfreude (pleasure derived from someone’s failing). The author finds that Freudenfrede can be an antidote to depression.
11.01.2023
5 Steps That Helped Me Learn To Forgive My Parents
https://www.parents.com/five-steps-that-helped-me-learn-to-forgive-my-parents-7092997
During adolescence—and as part of our innate need to separate from our parents—teens tend to look at the worst in their parents. It is not personal, it is part of a healthy maturing process. But one of the primary keys to maturity is to be able to say, “My parents did that best they could with the tools they had…” We simple cannot be healthy parents, or even healthy adults until we’ve learned to forgive our parents. And as a learning process, it is a mindset we must choose.
This Week’s Links
17.01.2023
'Pseudomutuality': Why it takes so long to spot narcissistic abuse
https://apple.news/AcnY8oO2ZR8ONh3wJlYSaxA
How to Be with Each Other’s Suffering: Elie Wiesel on the Antidote to Our Paralysis in the Face of World-Overwhelm
https://www.themarginalian.org/2023/01/16/elie-wiesel-brothers-keeper/
5 Secretly Effective Ways To Talk To Your Kids (So They Actually Listen)
https://www.yourtango.com/family/secretly-effective-ways-talk-to-kids-so-listen
How to deal with anxiety: 5 tips for coping when you feel anxious
https://www.stylist.co.uk/health/mental-health/how-to-deal-with-anxiety/751165
3 New Books on Why Being an Introvert Is a Strength
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/3-new-books-introvert-strength/38879/
Naturally Produce More Dopamine and Serotonin to Enjoy a Happier 2023
16.01.2023
Building self-discipline by age 27 is crucial, says expert: 3 ways to do it
https://apple.news/AU4ciy7DzSrWv3M4dg5n6Nw
How to Talk to Young Kids About Racism and Racial Bias
https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/how-to-talk-young-kids-racism-racial-bias
Bullying at school: What parents can do to help victims and stop bullies
https://www.cnn.com/2023/01/16/health/stopping-bullying-in-schools-wellness/
Nature activities for 20 minutes a day can boost mood and productivity
https://apple.news/AoAxCIWY_SQywKu6HYVJbGw
‘We’re all vulnerable’: One in 10 people will end up with long COVID, new study says
15.01.2023
Emotionally Intelligent People Know How to Listen. Here Are 5 Things They Do Different
What's the #1 thing to change to be happier? A top happiness researcher weighs in
https://apple.news/ADXLSvf-2RQ6yGTzjVV1S9Q
7 Ways To Cultivate More Compassion and Harmony in All Your Relationships This Year
https://apple.news/ALHHjAG4BTSu8Gu5XtjJwVw
14.01.2023
The Art of Conscious Conversations: Transforming How We Talk, Listen, and Interact
The Adolescent Mental Health Crisis
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-now/202301/the-adolescent-mental-health-crisis
What Can Teachers Do to Engage Anxious Students?
5 Things To Do For Better Focus & A Longer Attention Span
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/how-to-increase-attention-span
How to Be More Resilient
https://www.fatherly.com/health/resilience-and-how-to-be-more-resilient
6 Effective Ways To Raise A Happy Child
https://www.yourtango.com/family/effective-ways-raise-happy-child
Why experts consider authoritative parenting the best approach, and how it differs from authoritarian parenting
https://www.insider.com/guides/parenting/authoritative-vs-authoritarian-parenting
You Are Not At The Mercy Of Your Emotions
https://www.yourtango.com/health-wellness/you-are-not-mercy-your-emotions
How to Cope With Change
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/from-trial-to-triumph/202301/how-to-cope-with-change
13.01.2023
Why Community Is So Important—and How to Find Yours
https://www.rd.com/article/what-is-community/
Academic Freedom Is Not a Matter of Opinion
A post-pandemic drop in kindergarten vaccinations is making public health officials very nervous
Researchers studied kindergarteners' behavior and followed up 19 years later. Here are the findings.
https://www.upworthy.com/researchers-studied-kindergartener-behavior-10-years-later-rp
60 Powerful Kindness Quotes You'll Be Inspired to Pass on to Others
https://www.womansday.com/life/g42434582/kindness-quotes/
40 Awesome STEM Toys to Inspire Your Child's Love of Learning
https://parade.com/shopping/best-stem-toys-for-kids
10 Ways to Feel Grateful Every Day
12.01.2023
Freudenfreude Might Be Just What Your Friendships Are Missing
https://apple.news/Ai6xcNxy7RT-9G0hiQfsnvA
My colleague wants more attention than I can give. How can I manage this with kindness?
https://apple.news/ASdI93B8KQN2ttVSQ5AuMRw
What books are being banned across the US and why?
https://apple.news/AU4zQr44DQVe3texGHrF60g
Half of the 250 Kids Expelled from Preschool Each Day Are Black Boys
https://apple.news/ApgR0Hr0_RMOYgV7NtFHotA
11.01.2023
5 Steps That Helped Me Learn To Forgive My Parents
https://www.parents.com/five-steps-that-helped-me-learn-to-forgive-my-parents-7092997
7 Things To Say To Help An Angry Person Calm Down
https://www.fatherly.com/life/7-things-to-say-to-help-an-angry-person-calm-down
Using Screens to Distract Kids Makes Their Behavior Worse Long-Term, New Research Warns
Robert Waldinger: The secret to a happy life -- lessons from 8 decades of research
The Best Face Masks for Long Flights as New COVID Variant Spreads
The quiet cost of covid: A million people missing work each month
https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2023/01/10/coronavirus-employees-health-missed-work/
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Losing their tween years and the increased impact on girls. Embracing the benefits of suffering in helping others. Lots of articles and graphics to assist you this week in parenting, teaching or working with children/youth.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 38 (140 total reports)
04.01.2023-10.01.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Losing their tween years and the increased impact on girls. Embracing the benefits of suffering in helping others. Lots of articles and graphics to assist you this week in parenting, teaching or working with children/youth.
This Week’s Top Links
10.01.2023
Girls on the Brink: Helping Our Daughters Thrive in an Era of Increased Anxiety, Depression, and Social Media
The tween years are developmentally critical (there are two articles about that in this week’s feed). Girls are starting puberty earlier, but their tween years are shortening. That is a problem resulting in an increased mental health risk for female adulthood. There is much we can do to mitigate the demands of our culture on young adolescents and we need to be conscious of how to assist them through conversations, modeling (co-regulation) and relationships.
09.01.2023
Self-Regulation in the Personalized Classroom
https://esheninger.blogspot.com/2023/01/self-regulation-in-personalized.html
This principal’s article about self-regulation is a great training aid for adults; teachers, foster care staff and increased parental understanding.
08.01.2023
2 Self-Defeating Attitudes to Leave Behind
With the start of a New Year, there are old habits we need to analyze and abandon. That includes mental habits as well as physical ones. This article highlights two self-defeating behaviors without which all of us could be healthier. I would add that we can rarely “break” a habit, we need instead to think about “substituting” them. Initially, substituting habits takes a lot of practice (just think of the years it took to develop that negative habit). Generally, it takes ninety days to completely substitute a behavior until the new behavior (or thought process) becomes habitual itself. Be kind to yourself--and patient.
07.01.2023
9 Benefits of Volunteering That Will Inspire You to Sign Up Today
https://www.rd.com/article/benefits-of-volunteering/
Where a person has volunteered should be one of the most consistent questions we ask of people running for office. Barack Obama was a community organizer, his Republican counterparts used that against him in debates, but it was in the impoverished communities in his hometown of Chicago that formed his commitment to education and healthcare. This article is great for those of us to have needed—or still need—to recruit volunteers to our outreaches.
06.01.2023
The Crucial Work of Facing Suffering
I saw an article the other day about “curing old age.” It made me laugh because I had never thought of aging as a disease, I’ve always considered it a natural part of living. In biblical traditions, there is a set of false testaments called the “Gnostic Gospels.” The belief that aging is a disease is what I call one of our contemporary “Noxious Gospels (poisonous falsehoods).” Another one would be the central point of this article, that suffering is to be avoided. The author wisely points out that we cannot help other people until we have faced suffering ourselves. Not that suffering is something to seek (martyrdom), but it is something to address. Suffering is NOT an option, our response to it can either be healthy or damaging.
05.01.2023
Winnie the Pooh: The Theory That Every Character Represents a Mental Illness, Explained
https://movieweb.com/winnie-the-pooh-characters-mental-illness/
I had not thought about this theory until I read this article, but once I read the article, everything fell into place. Now, it will be difficult NOT to see certain characteristics as examples of the lovable A.A. Milne characters.
04.01.2023
Kids driving you crazy? Try these science-backed anger management tips for parents
It’s cyclical, we lose perspective and see the world in a more hostile manner. When that happens, we are less able to regulate our emotional responses. There are always times when our lack of self-regulation will make us more susceptible to being “driven crazy” and not just by our children; for me it can be traffic in the city, noisy neighbors and street sounds. Whatever it is for you… these anger management tips will help.
This Week’s Links
10.01.2023
Girls on the Brink: Helping Our Daughters Thrive in an Era of Increased Anxiety, Depression, and Social Media
What Tweens Need to Learn Before Becoming Teens
https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/tween-life-skills-before-teenage-years
Empathy the most important leadership skill
How the brain transfers fear memories to long-term storage
https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/brain-long-term-fear-memory/
ADHD and Oppositional Defiant Disorder
https://www.verywellmind.com/understanding-and-treating-adhd-and-odd-6541410
7 Simple Ways to Practice Gratitude in Your Everyday Life
https://www.rd.com/article/how-to-practice-gratitude/
Study Finds There Are 4 Subtypes of Long COVID
https://www.prevention.com/health/a42433806/long-covid-subtypes-study/
09.01.2023
Self-Regulation in the Personalized Classroom
https://esheninger.blogspot.com/2023/01/self-regulation-in-personalized.html
How does grief affect the brain?
https://www.livescience.com/how-does-grief-affect-the-brain
7 Physically Calming Things You Can Do To Soothe a Stressed-Out Mind
https://www.wellandgood.com/physical-ways-relieve-stress/
Ditch your toxic relationships — healthy friendships actually help you live longer and heal wounds faster. Here’s why.
https://www.insider.com/good-relationships-help-you-live-longer-reduce-physical-pain-2023-1
'Kraken' subvariant shows COVID continuing to evolve, vaccine equity needed: experts
08.01.2023
2 Self-Defeating Attitudes to Leave Behind
I talked to 70 parents who raised highly successful kids—here's the 'surprising' parenting style they all used
Oregon church puts out the most hilarious and inclusive messages
6 Child Behavioral Problems Parents Should Never, Ever Ignore
https://www.yourtango.com/family/child-behavioral-problems-parents-never-ever-ignore
07.01.2023
9 Benefits of Volunteering That Will Inspire You to Sign Up Today
https://www.rd.com/article/benefits-of-volunteering/
10 things that made us smile this week
https://www.upworthy.com/10-things-that-made-us-smile-this-week-1-6-23
‘It altered my entire worldview’: leading authors pick eight nonfiction books to change your mind
7 Ways Strong Moms Can Raise Daughters Who Love Themselves
https://www.yourtango.com/family/strong-moms-confident-daughters
5 Sad, Underlying Beliefs You May Have If You Were Raised By A Toxic Parent
https://www.yourtango.com/family/sad-underlying-beliefs-you-may-have-raised-toxic-parents
06.01.2023
The Crucial Work of Facing Suffering
Pandemic Catch Up: What Will it Take for Left-Behind Students to Learn to Read?
6 Tips to Be More Adventurous in Everyday Life
https://www.rd.com/article/how-to-be-more-adventurous/
Can Stress Cause Lightheadedness?
https://www.verywellmind.com/can-stress-cause-lightheadedness-6951448
How to take control of your self-narrative for a better, happier life
5 Questions That Will Make You Emotionally Strong
https://www.yourtango.com/self/questions-will-make-you-emotionally-strong
Florida School District Bans Book About Real-Life Same-Sex Penguin Couple: Report
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/tango-makes-three-banned-florida-book_n_63b7508fe4b0cbfd55e7d2ec
Gov. Ron DeSantis Administration Demands Universities Report Programs On Diversity, CRT
https://newsone.com/4477303/ron-desantis-critical-race-theory/
Physical Activity May Cut Depressive Symptoms in Children, Teens
Comedian David Cross lampoons anti-maskers
https://boingboing.net/2023/01/05/comedian-david-cross-lampoons-anti-maskers.html
COVID’s New Year’s Resolution Is to Infect Us All Again (and Again)
05.01.2023
Winnie the Pooh: The Theory That Every Character Represents a Mental Illness, Explained
https://movieweb.com/winnie-the-pooh-characters-mental-illness/
What are the benefits of reading books? A lot, actually
https://www.today.com/life/inspiration/benefits-of-reading-rcna61735
How To Stop Overthinking And Make Better, Faster Decisions
https://hive.com/blog/how-to-stop-overthinking/
How Science Says Emotionally Intelligent People Embrace the Rule of Awkward Conversations to Make a Great First Impression
04.01.2023
Kids driving you crazy? Try these science-backed anger management tips for parents
How to know if your inner voice is a liar
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
The fears of children and adolescents is a bellwether issue of societal health, Borderline Personality Disorder and the need for validation, the power of poverty in undermining children’s lives. A number of great links (and visuals) in this week’s links.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 37 (139 total reports)
28.12.2022-03.01.2023
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
The fears of children and adolescents is a bellwether issue of societal health, Borderline Personality Disorder and the need for validation, the insidious power of poverty in undermining children’s lives. There are a number of great links (and visuals) in this week’s links.
This Week’s Top Links
03.01.2023
Why Climate Science Shouldn’t Forget to Factor in Brain Health
https://worldcrunch.com/culture-society/climate-change-health-brain?share_id=7382763
The social litmus test of every generation SHOULD be the greatest fears of their children. I remember reading a study that spoke of the fifties and the greatest fears; getting caught with an untucked shirt, chewing gum in the hallway or forgetting your locker number. In my childhood, the greatest concerns were nuclear war and civil rights. We were the Assassination Generation, watching the shootings of John Kennedy, Robert Kennedy and Martin Luther King, Jr. Yet, that still somehow felt far away and distant—even when television brought it right into our living room in black and white. A list of children’s fears today are not so distant, particularly if you are a child of impoverished parents. Police Shootings, School Shootings, the end of democracy, the disintegration of our climate. Not only are these fears personal, but they feel unmanageable—not just to children—but also to adults. It is important to ask ourselves, “Are these the fears we want our children to face?” What concerns should be top on our children’s minds and how do we—as adults—work towards that world?
02.01.2023
The Former Foster Youth Sharing Meditation With New York City School Kids
I love stories like these. Commendations to New York City for seeing this issue as a critical need and for hiring the specific person they employed. Kudos also to this young man who seems to spend as much time listening as he does teaching.
01.01.2023
This Nerve Influences Nearly Every Internal Organ. Can It Improve Our Mental State, Too?
I’m a big believer in shocking the Vagus Nerve on a regular basis. Fortunately, I live with access to a cold ocean and cold pool. But simply splashing cold water on your face in the early morning or turning your shower to cold before getting out can have the same effect. This is like a “Hard Reset” for your nervous system and if you’re at all like me, you need that throughout the day.
31.12.2022
Borderline Personality and Validation
There are people in my circle who continually need external validation. This article truly helps with understanding that need. I enjoyed another article this week that compared FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with JOMO—try to guess what that is before you read it—(Joy of Missing Out). Since I lean towards JOMO, I have to work a little harder to understand people who constantly hunger for external validation to buoy their esteem. Yesterday was a national holiday for people like me; International Introverts Day. I think it’s important not just to be conscious of those with a high need for external validation, but to realize that being an Introvert doesn’t mean you dislike people, it seemly means you don’t get energized being with people. It’s all about finding where you get your energy and building balance in those areas. In University, I once asked a professor (when we were studying personality assessments like Myers-Briggs), whether he was an Introvert or an extrovert. He said, “I’d like to think I’m mature enough to be WHO I need to be WHEN I need to be it.” That would make him an Ambivert. Ambiverts are like people who are ambidextrous and can use both hands. They can tap into both Introversion and Extroversion depending on what their mental health needs are at the time.
30.12.2022
Your Brain is a Box of Stories
This is such an important analogy. If we understand the concept, it will help us realize that one of our greatest tasks with children and teens is to help them become the editors of the stories they tell themselves. Indeed, the best leaders are beginning to transform their roles into Corporate Narrators, realizing that their primary duty is to tell the story of the company and to find the stories that grow the healthiest culture. That is indeed our role with children—to give them the power to narrate their stories for themselves.
29.12.2022
'I had it first!' 4 steps to help children solve their own arguments
https://theconversation.com/i-had-it-first-4-steps-to-help-children-solve-their-own-arguments-167979
To have siblings is to have arguments. Healthy adults will not always try to solve these disagreements, but give power to children to work them through independently. This article gives some good tips for assisting children in building that capacity.
28.12.2022
Poverty Is Violent
https://apple.news/A4KU4oj8fQDerI2f9NlsF2Q
I was discussing this concept with a good friend of mine who is a child psychologist working with adolescents just yesterday. We both agreed that poverty is an often concealed factor in determining a child’s well being. I have worked with children and teens in a number of States, Provinces and Countries, and it is always apparent that the majority of marginalized and institutionalized children come from poverty. Because poverty is also unfairly a race issue, it may seem like racism is the primary issue in injustice, but if you look deeper, there are pockets of the country where Anglo people—who are impoverished—have as many issues as impoverished minority children in other locations. This should assist in how we approach civil rights. When we address poverty, we will also address racism.
This Week’s Links
03.01.2023
Why Climate Science Shouldn’t Forget to Factor in Brain Health
https://worldcrunch.com/culture-society/climate-change-health-brain?share_id=7382763
Martha Beck’s New Cure for Anxiety
https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/health/a42167556/martha-beck-strategy-for-dealing-with-anxiety/
The mindset that brings unlimited willpower
https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20230103-how-to-strengthen-willpower
A Child Psychologist On How Parents Can Survive Temper Tantrums
https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/temper-tantrums-strategy-child-psychologist
It’s 2023. We need to stop using harmful language. Here’s what we can say instead
12 Of The Best New Children’s Books Out January 2023
https://bookriot.com/new-childrens-books-january-2023/
Childhood anxiety: How to spot it, and how to help
My Teens Are Moody And This Is How I’ve Learned To Deal With It
https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/my-teens-are-moody-this-is-how-ive-learned-to-deal-with-it
Supporting a child with long COVID – tips from parents of children living with the condition
02.01.2023
The Former Foster Youth Sharing Meditation With New York City School Kids
Shaming Is an Aggressive Act
01.01.2023
This Nerve Influences Nearly Every Internal Organ. Can It Improve Our Mental State, Too?
La Jolla high school student publishes computer programming book for kids, in Spanish
10 Mantras for a Healthier 2023
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/10-mantras-for-a-healthier-2023/
Broken classrooms: Why teachers and parents don’t stand a chance
31.12.2022
Borderline Personality and Validation
The Missing, Essential Ingredient For Meaningful Work
‘Want-To’ Versus ‘Have-To’ Motivation Makes It More Likely You Will Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions
ADHD And Autism Aren’t The Same, But They Are Closely Related
https://www.fatherly.com/health/adhd-autism-spectrum-closely-related
40 Motivational Affirmations To Encourage You In 2023
https://www.brit.co/motivational-quotes/
How Schools Can Help Overloaded Teens
https://www.the74million.org/article/how-schools-can-help-overloaded-teens/
30.12.2022
Your Brain is a Box of Stories
Want To Teach Your Kids Emotional Resilience? A Conscious Parenting Expert Says To Model That Behavior Yourself
https://www.wellandgood.com/conscious-parenting-tips/
To Be Honest, These Overused Filler Phrases Really Get on Other People's Nerves
8 Philosophy Books to Read for a Happier, More Meaningful 2023
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/8-philosophy-books-read-happier-meaningful-2023/38460/
How To Change A Limiting Belief In Under One Minute
https://www.yourtango.com/self/how-change-limiting-beliefs-under-one-minute
The Smartest People in The Room Often Overlook This Critical Attribute to Success
The Benefits of Solitude
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-are-the-chances/202212/the-benefits-of-solitude
For Entrepreneurs, Or Perhaps Everyone, Answer These Six Questions To Potentially Find Your Purpose In Life
Jobs projected to grow the most in the next decade: COVID-19 restrictions changed almost all forms of work. Stacker compiled a list of jobs expected to grow the most over the next 10 years.
Pope Francis: Use Your Pain Like a Sculpture
China Covid: experts estimate 9,000 deaths a day as US says it may sample wastewater from planes
29.12.2022
'I had it first!' 4 steps to help children solve their own arguments
https://theconversation.com/i-had-it-first-4-steps-to-help-children-solve-their-own-arguments-167979
How Narcissism Is Tearing Us Apart
Tell Your Story: Teaching Students to Become World-Changing Thinkers and Writers
https://www.ascd.org/books/tell-your-story?chapter=about-the-authors-tell-your-story
Changing how we talk can go a long way in banning toxic productivity from 2023
https://www.latimes.com/lifestyle/story/2022-12-29/toxic-productivity-is-linked-to-how-we-talk
Routines: The powerful tools that can help you adjust to a "new normal"
https://www.cbsnews.com/news/routines-habit-formation-new-normal-new-years-resolution/
Children who play video games show altered brain activity that suggests improved cognitive abilities
28.12.2022
Poverty Is Violent
https://apple.news/A4KU4oj8fQDerI2f9NlsF2Q
5 Conflict Resolutions Tips For The Workplace
https://hive.com/blog/conflict-resolution-in-the-workplace/
Banned Books: Author Jerry Craft on telling stories all kids can identify with
https://apple.news/AOPCAq2v2RHaqNCkesQ7ziA
The Post-COVID “Immunity Gap” Continues to Pummel Pediatric Wards
https://apple.news/Apn8z6dUFTdSEJpWThK1Bbg
Reviewing 2022 For Insight Into 2023
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Among your New Year resolutions, include your own well-being and that of the people you influence. In this week’s links, be inspired by self-transcendence, forgiveness and true leadership.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 36 (138 total reports)
22.12.2022-27.12.2022
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Among your New Year resolutions, include your own well-being and that of the people you influence. In this week’s links, be inspired by self-transcendence, forgiveness and true leadership.
This Week’s Top Links
27.12.2022
7 Daily Habits That Will Improve Your Mental Health in 2023
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/7-daily-habits-that-will-improve-your-mental-health-in-2023/
Not all resolutions should be about your physical health or material wealth this year. Consider your well-being and the depth of the relationships you treasure.
26.12.2022
Dave Barry’s 2022 Year in Review
https://apple.news/AmPenIE3kSYKjX3JRTBZbaA
I’ve enjoyed Dave Barry’s columns since I first stumbled upon him while living in his home state of Florida. His yearly review is always both comical and insightful. Give yourself the gift of a smile and take a moment to share Dave’s reflections on 2022.
25.12.2022
How Forgiving Others Helps You to Restore Your Own Humanity
Gratitude and forgiveness. Perhaps the two bookends of a well-shaped mind. And both are practices, not automatically given at birth. My favorite article this year was no doubt the research into Abraham Maslow’s hierarchy of needs with the highest need being revealed as self-transcendence rather than self-actualization. Forgiveness and gratitude are key components of self-transcendence.
24.12.2022
Breaking Down Harvard’s 15-Step Leadership Checklist
https://hive.com/blog/leadership-checklist/
We are all leaders, whether in parenting, educating, relationships or at work. These 15-components are the fundamentals of the type of leadership that transcends tasks and time.
23.12.2022
The Classic Parenting Book ‘How to Talk So Kids Will Listen’ in Under 1,000 Words
In my opinion, this is the best book on parenting I have ever read. The book is not that difficult to comprehend, but if this condensed version leads you to understanding the concepts better than it is well-worth the read.
22.12.2022
Zelensky Recalled Us to Ourselves
I was entranced by Volodymyr Zelenskyy’s speech to the US Congress. Thought often cited as a politician and comedian, Zelenskyy is, above all else, a great communicator. It truly reminds us of the frameworks that once made the US a beacon of light to the world. It truly shows that our world needs to raise more communicators and less career politicians.
21.12.2022
We Are More Than Our Grades: A Student's Perspective (Opinion)
This article reminds us that grades are often not a result of a students efforts, nor an indicator of a student’s worth. That is critical to remember at a time when education is struggling to meet the needs of students during another wave (a trifecta) of viruses.
This Week’s Links
27.12.2022
7 Daily Habits That Will Improve Your Mental Health in 2023
https://www.cnet.com/health/mental/7-daily-habits-that-will-improve-your-mental-health-in-2023/
5 Mantras to Adopt That Will Immediately Improve Your Life
https://www.entrepreneur.com/living/practicing-and-believing-these-5-mantras-will-change-your/439530
5 New Studies That Challenge Conventional Wisdom About Kids and Tech
https://reason.com/2022/12/27/5-new-studies-that-challenge-conventional-wisdom-about-kids-and-tech/
5 Steps for Building Trust and Becoming the Go-to in Your Field
https://www.entrepreneur.com/growing-a-business/5-ways-to-build-trust-and-reliability/440637
26.12.2022
Dave Barry’s 2022 Year in Review
https://apple.news/AmPenIE3kSYKjX3JRTBZbaA
5 New Year’s resolutions for calmer parenting in 2023
https://www.goodto.com/family/new-years-resolutions-for-parents
A nutritionist shares the best snacks to bring on a plane to boost your immune system
How the pandemic ushered in a new era of hybrid homeschooling
25.12.2022
How Forgiving Others Helps You to Restore Your Own Humanity
How to let your teenager make mistakes
https://www.mother.ly/teen/letting-your-teenager-make-mistakes/
“Make Time for Curiosity and Creativity”—These Are the Intentions Our Editors Are Setting for 2023
https://camillestyles.com/wellness/new-year-intentions/
15 People Share What It’s Like To Be COVID Cautious—When it Seems Like Everyone Else Has Moved On
https://www.wellandgood.com/cautious-about-covid-19/
Masks Are a Proven Way to Defend Yourself from Respiratory Infections
24.12.2022
Breaking Down Harvard’s 15-Step Leadership Checklist
https://hive.com/blog/leadership-checklist/
It’s all too easy to get sick right now. Here’s how to protect yourself.
https://www.vox.com/even-better/2022/12/23/23516609/tripledemic-covid-flu-rsv-tips
Mask mandates fail to make a comeback, despite pleas from public health experts
Critical thinking training: 5 key lessons for employees
https://bigthink.com/plus/critical-thinking-training/
The 7 Kinds of Rest You Need to Actually Feel Rejuvenated
23.12.2022
The Classic Parenting Book ‘How to Talk So Kids Will Listen’ in Under 1,000 Words
UNSTOPPABLE US: Yuval Noah Harari on Our Past, Present, and Future
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/unstoppable-us-yuval-noah-harari-past-present-future/38378/
9 Healing Books About Trauma
https://bookriot.com/books-about-trauma/
How To Find the Best Adult ADHD Therapist
https://www.verywellmind.com/adhd-therapist-how-to-find-one-5498983
22.12.2022
Zelensky Recalled Us to Ourselves
Deliberate Calm: How to Learn and Lead in a Volatile World
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/deliberate-calm-learn-lead-volatile-world-bookbite/38298/
8 Picture Books To Teach Growth Mindset
https://bookriot.com/growth-mindset-picture-books/
7 Ways to Be a More Patient Parent, According to a Patience Expert
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-be-more-patient
3 easy breathing techniques to relieve stress and anxiety, according to a neuroscientist
https://www.countryliving.com/uk/wellbeing/a42280718/neuroscientist-stop-stress-anxiety/
How to Stay Healthy While Traveling This Holiday Season, According to a Doctor
https://www.travelandleisure.com/health-cold-flu-covid-tips-traveling-holiday-6975609
21.12.2022
We Are More Than Our Grades: A Student's Perspective (Opinion)
A mass exodus from Christianity is underway in America. Here’s why.
Use the 'Feynman Method' to Learn New Things
https://lifehacker.com/use-the-feynman-method-to-learn-new-things-1849905388
Gen Z is re-thinking college and career plans in post-Roe America: ‘I want to leave the country’
https://www.cnbc.com/2022/12/19/gen-z-on-new-college-and-career-plans-in-post-roe-america.html
The leader’s playbook for channeling fear into courage
War on wokeness: the year the right rallied around a made-up menace
https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2022/dec/20/anti-woke-race-america-history
Feeling a Little Hectic or Chaotic? De-Stress With This 12-Minute Stretching Routine
https://www.wellandgood.com/de-stress-stretches/
5 Ideas for Developing Real-World Thinking Skills
Is everyone you know sick? Explaining winter's early rush of illness – and if it will continue.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Happy Holidays (well maybe not for everyone). Suggestions for helping you or those in your life who experience painful holidays. Also, a number of inspiring posters I found in this week’s news feeds.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 35 (137 total reports)
14.12.2022-20.12.2022
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Happy Holidays (well maybe not for everyone). Suggestions for helping you or those in your life who experience painful holidays. Also, a number of inspiring posters I found in this week’s news feeds.
This Week’s Top Links
20.12.2022
Were You Parentified as a Kid? Here’s What That Means, and How It Might Affect Your Relationships in Adulthood
https://www.wellandgood.com/parentification-effects/
Working with orphanages or the foster care system—or really, any group of children today—one certainly sees the far-reaching impact of parentification. Whether it is a child who feels they need to go “home” to care for a recovering parent or for their younger siblings, the feelings can be overwhelming for the child. This article does a good job explaining how prettification occurs and what its impacts can be. So whether you feel you were parentified or work with others who might have been, this is a good article to review and share.
19.12.2022
How to handle those people who always have to be right
I’m fond of mentioning one of my Marriage and Family Professors in University who said, “Would you rather be right or married?” Unfortunately, some people really would rather be right and divorce rates partially attest to that. But what do you do when you know someone—in a friendship or otherwise—whose self-esteem is tied to being right or knowing-it-all? That’s what this article is about and with family visits over the Holidays on the horizon, this is a very timely article.
18.12.2022
Mastering the art of constructive disagreement
Unless you have no personal values, you will inevitably have disagreements. Disagreements don’t have to end on a destructive note and this article gives some very fine suggestions on how to make sure your disagreements have mostly constructive outcomes.
17.12.2022
Festive season, a joyous time for some and a threat to mental health for others
I and many others know people who will be institutionalized and/or pain during this holiday season. Emotional or physical; holidays, birthdays and other days of celebration can be painful reminders of promises unfilled or relationships abandoned. With COVID, we need to extra vigilant of those who have lost loved ones over the last few years or are now facing a debilitating illness perhaps even related to the virus. This article will help, not only with raising awareness, but also with assisting others who find the Holidays daunting.
16.12.2022
How to Help a Teen Who Has Very Few Friends & Is Suffering With Loneliness
https://www.yourtango.com/family/help-teens-make-friends
Loneliness has been an epidemic exacerbated by the epidemic of COVID. Especially for teens whose primary tool of socialization (school and school-related activities) has been taken away. As we have seen, social media is no substitute for actual relationships and those who are lonely (at any age) need a special assist right now. This is a simple, compassionate read on reaching out. Read it yourself and/or pass it along.
15.12.2022
'There’s No Such Thing as Bad Emotions' and Other Truths Students Need to Know (Opinion)
Most of us have been called “bad” at one time or another for expressing intense emotions. Those doing the “name-calling” may not have been adept at discerning between the emotion and its expression (behavior). From infancy to adulthood, we need to know that all feelings are legitimate, and we need help learning what expressions are constructive.
14.12.2022
5 Reasons Complaining Is Ruining Your Life and Crushing Your Happiness
https://everydaypower.com/stop-complaining/
I remember in University reading research that counteracted the benefits of cathartic behaviors such as hitting a pillow or complaining. There is constructive catharsis and destructive catharsis. This article examines how complaining is a destructive cathartic behavior.
This Week’s Links
20.12.2022
Were You Parentified as a Kid? Here’s What That Means, and How It Might Affect Your Relationships in Adulthood
https://www.wellandgood.com/parentification-effects/
How to stop toxic self-talk, explained in 6 minutes
https://bigthink.com/the-well/toxic-self-talk/
That Feeling When Have So Many Things to Do You Can't Do Any of Them? Psychologists Have a Name for It and a Solution
The Ten Best Children's Books of 2022
https://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/the-ten-best-childrens-books-of-2022-180981325/
Don’t send Grandma to the ICU this Christmas
https://www.cnn.com/2022/12/20/health/covid-flu-vaccine-fatigue-holiday-masking-wellness/
19.12.2022
How to handle those people who always have to be right
Avoid these 5 passive-aggressive phrases that 'irritate' people the most, says speech expert
5 Helpful Things to Do When You Think Life Sucks
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-helpful-things-do-when-think-life-sucks/
10 Oddly Effective Psychological Tricks To Help You Win An Argument (Fairly)
https://www.yourtango.com/self/win-argument-fairly
18.12.2022
Mastering the art of constructive disagreement
What Is Catastrophizing And How Can You Stop It? - Glam
https://www.glam.com/1134350/what-is-catastrophizing-and-how-can-you-stop-it/
Emotionally Intelligent People Use 3 Simple Words to Beat Perfectionism and Work Faster (and Better)
Our Best Tips For Fighting Back Against Low Self-Esteem - Glam
https://www.glam.com/1137313/our-best-tips-for-fighting-back-against-low-self-esteem/
What Pretend Play Tells Us About Social Cognition
https://neurosciencenews.com/pretend-play-social-cognition-22103/
How Poverty Academically Affects Black Children
Everything You Need to Know About COVID on Surfaces
https://parade.com/health/how-long-covid-stays-on-surfaces
Updated COVID booster shots reduce the risk of hospitalization, CDC reports
https://www.npr.org/2022/12/18/1143833585/covid-bivalent-booster-reduce-hospitalization-risk-cdc
17.12.2022
Festive season, a joyous time for some and a threat to mental health for others
How to Practice Forgiveness
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-shared-existence/202212/how-to-practice-forgiveness
Three Skills Leaders Will Desperately Need In 2023
Top 10 ADHD News & Research Highlights of 2022
https://www.additudemag.com/top-adhd-news-research-dyslexia-medication-time-blindness/
A Harvard brain expert shares 6 things he never does in order to stay 'sharp, energized and healthy'
This Beauty: A Philosophy of Being Alive
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/beauty-philosophy-alive-bookbite/38076/
16.12.2022
How to Help a Teen Who Has Very Few Friends & Is Suffering With Loneliness
https://www.yourtango.com/family/help-teens-make-friends
An Age-by-Age Guide to SEL Activities for Kids and Teens
https://apple.news/AR-vjUQzHQ62KXt01TV-I6A
5 Signs Your Child's Behavior Is Out of Control
https://www.verywellmind.com/signs-your-childs-behavior-is-out-of-control-6892302
The Obvious Answer to Homelessness
https://apple.news/ATzWu5vrdQQmkB8MzF0nBZg
They lost best friends, became hypervigilant, felt guilt: The kids — now teens — who survived Sandy Hook
https://apple.news/ArrTdw1_qQXazSOICqLBuFQ
How to support grieving children over the holidays: 5 tips from a child psychologist
https://apple.news/AbPKwdMXkTo-laAWRd6K2Fg
15.12.2022
'There’s No Such Thing as Bad Emotions' and Other Truths Students Need to Know (Opinion)
7 Books About Codependency to Help You Better Understand the Condition
https://bookriot.com/books-about-codependency/
Sneaky Signs Your Kid Craves Connection (& How Not To Blow It)
https://www.scarymommy.com/parenting/sneaky-signs-kid-craves-connection
How to Create a Healthy Relationship With Social Media
14.12.2022
5 Reasons Complaining Is Ruining Your Life and Crushing Your Happiness
https://everydaypower.com/stop-complaining/
Amid Pandemic Learning Loss, There’s an Urgent Need to Bring Parents and Teachers Together
https://msmagazine.com/2022/12/13/pandemic-covid-learning-loss-parents-teachers/
14 Charts This Year That Helped Explain COVID’s Impact on America’s Schools
https://apple.news/AKffTMze_Qq-NgP_BbebWBg
Eight weeks of mindfulness training improves adolescents’ attentional control, study finds
The Only ADHD Study Playlist
https://bwog.com/2022/12/the-only-adhd-study-playlist/
Coronavirus Today: The people who face the greatest COVID risk
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Confidence and Courage: We won’t always be confident, but we can always choose to be courageous. Inside this and future blogs I am beginning to add posters that inspire me throughout the week.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 34 (136 total reports)
07.12.2022-13.12.2022
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Confidence and Courage: We won’t always be confident, but we can always choose to be courageous. Inside this and future blogs I am beginning to add posters that inspire me throughout the week.
This Week’s Top Links
13.12.2022
Cultivating the Four Kinds of Creativity
https://hbr.org/2023/01/cultivating-the-four-kinds-of-creativity
When you’re trying to build a business or establish a personal brand, the key is always creativity. The question behind every decision needs to be, “How does this decision help promote our uniqueness?” Creativity will be ever-increasing in importance as humans seek to differentiate themselves from AI and a world where bots take mundanity away from human labor. If what you do is repetitive, it will become robotic. I found this article interesting from a perspective on not only enhancing creativity, but also examining types of creativity.
12.12.2022
4 Ways to Respond Effectively to Our Intense Emotions
A person who cannot control intense emotions will become their slave. None of us are born with the ability to handle intense emotions and we need adults who will both model regulation and co-regulate with us (calmly sit with us while work through intense emotions and finally name them).
11.12.2022
10 Ways To Immediately Be Less Judgmental Of People You Disagree With
https://www.yourtango.com/self/ways-immediately-less-judgmental-people-disagree-with
It is far too easy to let disagreement become judgment and examples of that are rampant. When we become judgmental we lose the ability to rationally solve disagreements. To look at opinions instead of draw lines of battle. One of the first signs of behaving in a closed-minded, judgmental manner, is name-calling. In our fear, we want people to fit stereotypes for people that we think threaten our inner balance. We overcompensate by judging and finding ways to categorize as less-than-human.
10.12.2022
The Gift of Influence: Creating Life-Changing and Lasting Impact in Your Everyday Interactions
Influence is far more important than success. Though success is often monetized, influence sees money and power as optional. No one can be successful without being influential, but many people throughout history have chosen to be influential without being successful. This is a very important distinction in our education and development of children.
09.12.2022
Choose Courage Over Confidence
https://hbr.org/2022/12/choose-courage-over-confidence
I really liked this article and would enCOURAGE you to share it with others while using it as a springboard for meaningful conversation. This is a great conversation to have with your tween and teen. We won’t always be confident, but we can always choose to be courageous.
08.12.2022
Subtle Ways to Check on Students' Well-Being
https://www.edweek.org/leadership/subtle-ways-to-check-on-students-well-being/2022/12
Checking in on young people’s emotions often requires a great deal of subtlety. Being too blunt can send a young person into hiding (emotional or physical), especially if that bluntness is done in public. This article does a good job at teaching how to check in with young people while not frightening them away.
07.12.2022
We all can reach a “flow state.” Here’s how.
https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/reach-a-flow-state/
Flow is an amazing state often associated with peak creativity and total engagement. Flow can occur in almost any creative endeavor from sports and arts to relationships and conversations. Flow is like happiness in that it is not achieved and permanent. There are habits to reach flow and, when practiced, flow becomes easier to reach and longer to sustain.
This Week’s Links
13.12.2022
Cultivating the Four Kinds of Creativity
https://hbr.org/2023/01/cultivating-the-four-kinds-of-creativity
What To Do When Your Child Is A Late Talker
https://www.fatherly.com/health/michelle-macroy-higgins-late-talkers
Why Am I So Insecure? What Causes Insecurity + 7 Ways To Overcome It
https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/why-am-i-so-insecure
Cultivating the Four Kinds of Creativity
https://hbr.org/2023/01/cultivating-the-four-kinds-of-creativity
What To Do When Your Child Is A Late Talker
https://www.fatherly.com/health/michelle-macroy-higgins-late-talkers
6 essential tips for helping your kids develop empathy, according to child psychologists
https://www.insider.com/guides/parenting/how-to-teach-empathy-to-kids
Kindness Can Have Unexpectedly Positive Consequences
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/kindness-can-have-unexpectedly-positive-consequences/
Three Key Elements To Be A Servant Leader
12.12.2022
4 Ways to Respond Effectively to Our Intense Emotions
12 Questions to Ask Yourself If You Want to Reinvent Your Life in 2023
10 Things The Most Resilient People Do Every Day
https://www.yourtango.com/self/things-most-resilient-people-do-every-day
This Christmas whiskey ad about trans acceptance is warming hearts around the world
A Psychologist Teaches Us How To Rise Above The Holiday Family Drama
11.12.2022
10 Ways To Immediately Be Less Judgmental Of People You Disagree With
https://www.yourtango.com/self/ways-immediately-less-judgmental-people-disagree-with
Worries Teens Have About Themselves
Teens in crisis
https://theweek.com/health-and-wellness/1019123/teens-in-crisis
Local health officers and health care leaders recommend wearing masks indoors
10.12.2022
The Gift of Influence: Creating Life-Changing and Lasting Impact in Your Everyday Interactions
Life Is Hard: How Philosophy Can Help Us Find Our Way
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/life-hard-philosophy-can-help-us-find-way-bookbite/37836/
09.12.2022
Choose Courage Over Confidence
https://hbr.org/2022/12/choose-courage-over-confidence
Creating the Safe and Calm Classroom
What Are Behavioral Disorders in Children?
Turn A Stubborn Toddler Into A Helper With These Magic Words
https://www.fatherly.com/parenting/make-stubborn-toddler
GOP Congresswoman sobs as she pleads for colleagues to vote against LGBTQ+ rights
https://www.lgbtqnation.com/2022/12/gop-congresswoman-sobs-pleads-colleagues-vote-lgbtq-rights/
How to Calm Down From a Panic Attack
https://www.yogajournal.com/lifestyle/balance/how-to-calm-down-from-a-panic-attack/
5 signs your child is struggling with their mental health
https://www.marieclaire.co.uk/life/signs-your-child-is-struggling-mental-health
The 43 Funniest Chemistry Jokes for Kids
https://www.fatherly.com/entertainment/funny-chemistry-jokes-for-kids
FDA clears updated COVID-19 vaccines for kids under age 5
https://apnews.com/4e23cb1532f66bbb62318a461203095b
08.12.2022
Subtle Ways to Check on Students' Well-Being
https://www.edweek.org/leadership/subtle-ways-to-check-on-students-well-being/2022/12
A Training Hub for Teaching Students in Poverty
https://www.ascd.org/el/articles/a-training-hub
Failure is a good teacher, explained
Want to Be Happier? Use the 3-Minute Method to Dramatically Increase Feelings of Contentment, Satisfaction, and Well-Being
Measure your level of job burnout with this simple visual scale created by a behavioral scholar
07.12.2022
We all can reach a “flow state.” Here’s how.
https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/reach-a-flow-state/
How to Get Your Brain To Shut Up: 8 Ways to Quiet Your Mind
https://www.fatherly.com/life/how-to-quiet-your-mind
3 categories and 8 subcategories of management styles
https://www.theladders.com/career-advice/categories-and-subcategories-of-management-styles
How Gaming Creates Opportunities for Learning That Endures
https://www.edsurge.com/news/2022-12-05-how-gaming-creates-opportunities-for-learning-that-endures
Understanding ADHD and Trauma
https://www.verywellmind.com/understanding-adhd-and-trauma-6831287
Thinking 101: How to Reason Better to Live Better
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/thinking-101-reason-better-live-better-bookbite/37591/
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Prepare to be touched, have your heart strings pulled and mind stretched. This week’s links included parenting styles, SEL development in response to setbacks from COVID in education.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 33 (135 total reports)
30.11.2022-06.12.2022
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
Prepare to be touched, have your heart strings pulled and mind stretched. This week’s links included parenting styles, SEL development in response to setbacks from COVID in education. In addition to the best links, I am attaching some of the best posters I have seen this week.
This Week’s Top Links
06.12.2022
10 Types of Play for Child Development
https://www.parents.com/types-of-play-6835400
This is a pretty comprehensive list of the types of play children do as they progress through their cognitive development. It is wise to pay attention to how children play as that is a strong indicator of their maturation. Styles of play are critical tools in the evaluation of children’s mental health and well-being.
05.12.2022
A pediatrician's viral post will bring you to tears and inspire you to be a better person.
The title of this article was very accurate for me. The pediatrician spent time speaking with children who had a terminal diagnosis asking them about what they liked and didn’t like (what was important to them and what didn’t matter). Regardless of your age, this is a meaningful—and touching—article to review.
04.12.2022
Kids want to know: 'Will It Be Okay?' — this book answers that question
Find a child—or even someone older—and read this book with them. It will generate a lot of emotions and opportunities for conversation. I especially loved the name of the book’s author.
03.12.2022
‘NO’: Grad Students Analyze, Hack, and Remove Under-Desk Surveillance Devices Designed to Track Them
As I read this, I thought, “This is exactly why authoritarians do NOT want to support higher education.”
02.12.2022
The pandemic "ruptured" childrens' social skills around the world, researchers say
In the past couple of decades there was initially a great deal of talk about STEM education (science, technology, engineering, math), this graduated into STEAM (add the Arts to STEM), this article indicates the vital importance of SEL (social emotional learning). In the long run, people are hired, promoted or fired for their SEL abilities. As a former executive in a health care company, I would always rather take the B or C student, if they had high SEL abilities.
01.12.2022
Struggling during COVID, I helped my school develop a class about mental health
https://newark.chalkbeat.org/2022/12/1/23467213/covid-mental-health-class-newark
This educator had a great idea and won the support of her school and district. See what she did and look for aspects you could apply to your own situation—as an educator, parent or in a care home.
30.11.2022
Everything To Know About The 4 Main Parenting Styles & Which One Is Best For Kids
https://www.romper.com/parenting/four-types-of-parenting-styles
In my own workshops on parenting and child development I used to always bring a graph on parenting styles. Attendees and I would brainstorm on responses and activities that would apply to each of the four areas on our diagram: Relationship (High & Low), Authoritative (High & Low). We may have differing parenting styles in a variety of settings, but which style suggests your overall style of parenting (teaching, counseling, coaching), which style would you like to develop and what could you do to grow it?
This Week’s Links
06.12.2022
10 Types of Play for Child Development
https://www.parents.com/types-of-play-6835400
A Humorously Honest Animation About ADHD Diagnosis
https://laughingsquid.com/adhd-diagnosis-animation/
Relationship Expert Reveals The Question That Can Stop An Argument Immediately
6 things I wish I'd known when my child was diagnosed with autism
https://www.mother.ly/health-wellness/childrens-health/child-diagnosed-with-autism/
The 11 Highest Rated Fidget Toys On Amazon For Every Age (Even Grownups)
https://www.romper.com/life/best-fidget-toys
Study suggests mind-wandering is an underlying dysfunction among children with ADHD
Writing a Personal Leadership Philosophy Will Make You a Better Leader
05.12.2022
A pediatrician's viral post will bring you to tears and inspire you to be a better person.
How Emotionally Intelligent People Turn Frustration and Stress Into Fulfillment and Achievement, Backed By Considerable Science
Exploring effects of COVID-19 pandemic on neurodevelopment and mental health in adolescents
04.12.2022
Kids want to know: 'Will It Be Okay?' — this book answers that question
Disenfranchised Grief—Grief That Doesn’t Fit Society’s Standards and Is Not Often Acknowledged—Is Complex But Common
https://www.wellandgood.com/disenfranchised-grief/
To Help Struggling College Students, Look To Cognitive Science
Exercise may increase the effectiveness of your Covid-19 vaccine, a new study found: Here's how to get the most benefit
Every-10-year religious study of USA shows some surprising numbers
https://aleteia.org/2022/12/04/every-10-year-religious-study-of-usa-shows-some-surprising-numbers/
03.12.2022
‘NO’: Grad Students Analyze, Hack, and Remove Under-Desk Surveillance Devices Designed to Track Them
5 habits of confident people
Teen Brains Aged Prematurely During the Pandemic. Schools Should Take Note
Why We Need to Have More Critical Conversations About Social and Emotional Learning
Happiness in Action: A Philosopher’s Guide to the Good Life
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/happiness-action-philosophers-guide-good-life-bookbite/37525/
7 Brutal Lies That Kill Your Success, and How to Stop Believing Them
02.12.2022
The pandemic "ruptured" childrens' social skills around the world, researchers say
The 6 Best Smartphone Apps for Children With Autism
https://www.makeuseof.com/children-with-autism-best-apps-android-ios/
3 rules to express your thoughts so that everyone will understand you
https://bigthink.com/the-learning-curve/3-rules-express-your-thoughts-clearly/
01.12.2022
Struggling during COVID, I helped my school develop a class about mental health
https://newark.chalkbeat.org/2022/12/1/23467213/covid-mental-health-class-newark
The pandemic "ruptured" childrens' social skills around the world, researchers say
School principals say culture wars made last year 'rough as hell'
https://www.npr.org/2022/12/01/1139685828/schools-democracy-misinformation-purple-state
‘The hardest years of my career’: Principals say political combat has engulfed schools
The 22 most amazing discoveries of 2022
https://www.nationalgeographic.com/magazine/article/most-amazing-discoveries-2022
6 Everyday Activities That Naturally Release Dopamine In Your Brain
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/activities-release-dopamine-in-brain_l_6377bf04e4b06d5b6094f0d7
30.11.2022
Everything To Know About The 4 Main Parenting Styles & Which One Is Best For Kids
https://www.romper.com/parenting/four-types-of-parenting-styles
What it's like to grow up with autism
What to Know About Autism in Boys
https://www.verywellmind.com/what-to-know-about-autism-in-boys-6748940
COVID-19 Misinformation Is Allowed On Twitter Now, Apparently
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
There are many people to thank for last week’s successful benefit concert. The musicians (Vince Ruttan and Brian Richmond), the venue providers and its wait/cook/cleaning staff, the people who attended and, of course, YGO and AMPAY for the tireless work they do. Thank You!
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 32 (134 total reports)
23.11.2022-29.11.2022
REVIEW and ANNOUNCEMENTS
There are many people to thank for last week’s successful benefit concert. There are the musicians (Vince Ruttan and Brian Richmond), the venue providers and it’s wait/cook/cleaning staff, the people who attended and, of course, YGO and AMPAY for the tireless work they do. Thank You! Please join us for future events supporting more causes.
This Week’s Top Links
29.11.2022
A ‘Fiercely Compassionate’ Approach to Student Mental Health
https://www.the74million.org/article/a-fiercely-compassionate-approach-to-student-mental-health/
There are a number of rock-solid statements in this article for those who work with young people (or are raising them). A number of these statements would make great posters placed in the staff room as a reminder of being Fiercely Compassionate.
28.11.2022
How College in Prison is Leading Professors to Rethink How They Teach
I mentor a young man who is pursuing his Christian Counseling degree from Corban University at the Oregon State Penitentiary outside of Salem, Oregon. When closed-minded people ask “why would we want to educate inmates?” I like to remind them that almost all of the inmates are going to be their neighbor someday and would they prefer someone released who was angry and uneducated or grateful and educated. It’s not just the RIGHT thing to do, it is the BEST thing.
27.11.2022
15 Cheat Codes for Life: Jump 7 Years Ahead of People
https://www.entrepreneur.com/finance/15-cheat-codes-for-life-jump-7-years-ahead-of-people/439915
Calling these insights “cheat codes” implies there is something wrong with knowing them. But they really are good insights for improving your life and helping others “hack” into a deeper life and increased well-being. That’s not cheating, that’s growing.
26.11.2022
A Texas dad gave a heart-wrenching speech about his trans son. It's a must-see.
I applaud this father and hope more people affirm this video by both watching and sharing it. The attacks on homosexuality and transsexuals has no basis in the Gospels of Jesus Christ. They come from inaccurate interpretations of the Old Testament and letters. Christians often forget that the Old Testament and the Letters in the New Testament have one primary purpose that is to point to Jesus Christ in the Gospel. They also tend to overlook that the twin purposes of Christ’s life were personal transformation and communal restoration. Though he showed anger in his life, it was always directed towards either Satan or the Judgmental Religious leaders (interesting juxtaposition).
25.11.2022
Mind the gaps: the world needs to radically transform its educational systems, not just upgrade them
There are times when minor tweaks won’t work anymore. Many of our institutions are beyond “tweaking” and need critical overhauls. I would include political, religious, economics, judicial as well as education in this state. These were systems designed to enhance corporate capitalism and they are creating a less sustainable world.
24.11.2022
Why do kids bully? And what can parents do about it?
https://phys.org/news/2022-11-kids-bully-parents.html
Having been brought to multiple school districts (in both short-term and long-term capacities), I have tired of bullying programs that focus solely on the young people. I don’t think I’ve ever seen a school or school district that was high in youth violence that wasn’t also high in adult sarcasm. Sarcasm with a child is an adult version of bullying, but it’s like throwing hardballs at an armless man. Children simply don’t have the cognitive capacity to respond to sarcasm—it’s a learned response. And why we would want our children to learn that? I encourage both educators and parents to focus on growing a culture of specific praise and to “Fast” from sarcasm. If you are witty enough to use sarcasm, you are intelligent enough to master praise.
23.11.2022
See what a kid with autism sees for 90 eye-opening seconds.
https://www.upworthy.com/see-what-a-kid-with-autism-sees-for-90-eye-opening-seconds-rp
Anyone who sees this video will walk away with increased empathy for both people with autism and also for adults who spend time with neurodiverse children. Please review this and pass it on.
A Link to This Week’s Links
This week, I am supplying a link to my web site if you would like more information about the rest of the links I selected this week. My primary goal is to select links that will foster healthy development in children and teens. This week’s links can be found at:
https://www.communitiesoftrust-jerrygoebel.com/teenmentalhealth
This Week’s Links
29.11.2022
A ‘Fiercely Compassionate’ Approach to Student Mental Health
https://www.the74million.org/article/a-fiercely-compassionate-approach-to-student-mental-health/
How to Create a Sacred Space, According to Indigenous Teachings
How Great Leaders Communicate
https://hbr.org/2022/11/how-great-leaders-communicate
Best of 2022: Our Favorite Picture Books | Kirkus Reviews
https://www.kirkusreviews.com/news-and-features/articles/best-of-2022-our-favorite-picture-books/
What Does It Mean For a Therapist to Be Neurodiversity-Affirming?
A nurse's view as three viruses send Americans to hospitals
https://www.npr.org/2022/11/28/1139544103/a-nurses-view-as-three-viruses-send-americans-to-hospitals
28.11.2022
How College in Prison is Leading Professors to Rethink How They Teach
Parents of successful kids don't worry about screen time, expert says—they teach these 3 skills instead
Neurodivergent Versus Neuroatypical: What's The Difference?
https://www.healthdigest.com/1117474/neurodivergent-versus-neuroatypical-whats-the-difference/
Here's How To Tell If You Have A Cold, Flu Or COVID-19 & How Doctors Tell The Difference
News Wrap: 2 new COVID subvariants driving majority of U.S. cases
https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/news-wrap-2-new-covid-subvariants-driving-majority-of-u-s-cases
As RSV Cases Surge, Experts Warn of America’s Worsening ‘Tripledemic’
https://www.motherjones.com/politics/2022/11/rsv-covid-flu-cases-winter-2022/
27.11.2022
15 Cheat Codes for Life: Jump 7 Years Ahead of People
https://www.entrepreneur.com/finance/15-cheat-codes-for-life-jump-7-years-ahead-of-people/439915
Want to Raise Successful Kids? These 13 Simple Habits Pay Off Big-Time
It’s not just Covid. Flu and RSV means masks need to come back.
26.11.2022
A Texas dad gave a heart-wrenching speech about his trans son. It's a must-see.
To Raise Successful Kids, Encourage This Surprising Trait, According to a Parenting Expert
https://www.inc.com/minda-zetlin/successful-kids-parenting-learning-margot-machol-bisnow.html
Spare the rod, spanking your kids could permanently damage their brains
A More Just Future: Psychological Tools for Reckoning with Our Past and Driving Social Change
Parents who raise highly successful kids have these 3 things in common
How Great Leaders Communicate
https://hbr.org/2022/11/how-great-leaders-communicate
25.11.2022
Mind the gaps: the world needs to radically transform its educational systems, not just upgrade them
Teachers Are Drowning. So Are Students. What Can Be Done?
Does kindness get in the way of success?
From Tiny Krill To Concrete Jungles: 2022's Best Science Books For Kids
https://www.sciencefriday.com/segments/2022-kids-science-books/
24.11.2022
Why do kids bully? And what can parents do about it?
https://phys.org/news/2022-11-kids-bully-parents.html
Man abandoned by his dad at 14 makes videos teaching children what dads normally teach kids
David McGrath: Grateful people are happier. In that spirit, here is my Thanksgiving list. – Chicago Tribune
Mental health conversation starters: 14–18 years
https://www.unicef.org/parenting/mental-health/conversation-starters-14-18-years
10 Supplements That Can Help Treat Symptoms Of ADHD
https://www.healthdigest.com/1115457/supplements-that-can-help-treat-symptoms-of-adhd/
These U.S. Companies Gave $8 Million to Election-Denying Midterm Candidates
The next COVID wave is here. Here’s what you’re in for
23.11.2022
See what a kid with autism sees for 90 eye-opening seconds.
https://www.upworthy.com/see-what-a-kid-with-autism-sees-for-90-eye-opening-seconds-rp
Highlighting ‘Good’ Mistakes in Student Work
https://www.edutopia.org/article/highlighting-good-mistakes-in-student-work/
My Husband Refuses to Accept Our Daughter’s New Diagnosis
https://slate.com/human-interest/2022/11/adhd-disagreement-care-and-feeding.html?via=rss_flipboard
Most young people’s well-being falls sharply in first years of secondary school
Somatic therapy: How working with the body can heal the imprints of trauma
Dr. Fauci, who has served under seven presidents, delivers his final White House Covid briefing
6 free gratitude meditations to help you get grounded
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
My friends and I have been working for months preparing for our benefit concert this Thursday. Tickets are going fast and proceeds will go to AMPAY (La Asociación de Mujeres para la Prevención de Abuso en Yucatán) and YGO (Yucatan Giving Outreach). If you haven’t bought tickets yet, please contact Crocodiles at 999 638 7088
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 31 (133 total reports)
16.11.2022-22.11.2022
REVIEW
My friends and I have been working for months preparing for our benefit concert this Thursday. Tickets are going fast and proceeds will go to AMPAY (La Asociación de Mujeres para la Prevención de Abuso en Yucatán) and YGO (Yucatan Giving Outreach). If you haven’t bought tickets yet, please contact Crocodiles at 999 638 7088.
For those who have enjoyed my music (in the past) thank you and I have been able to post many of my songs to Spotify. Here is the link: https://open.spotify.com/artist/7gOYKzmnst7z280t2Y4uNE
This Week’s Top Links
22.11.2022
Equipping kids to defend against science misinformation
https://phys.org/news/2022-11-equipping-kids-defend-science-misinformation.html
I’ve just ordered a hat on the Internet that says, “Making Lying Wrong Again.” This week Governor Youngkin of Virgina has decided to emit Martin Luther King, Jr. and Barack Obama from school curricula. With so much disinformation—and rewritten histories—it becomes increasingly important to help our young people think critically. This article speaks about helping young people become “competent outsiders.” This phrase means to be able to critically observe scientific facts and reported findings without having to be an expert in the field.
21.11.2022
4 Things People With Great Communication Skills Will Do in a Conflict
Inc Magazine has long been my favorite go-to for business management and leadership information. This article is a treasure trove of ideas for dealing with conflict. If you work with young people (or are raising them) the information here will help you both communicate better with them AND teach them to deal with conflict in a healthier way.
20.11.2022
11 Ways to Support Teen and Young Adult Mental and Emotional Health Using Tech
https://www.makeuseof.com/support-teen-young-adult-mental-emotional-health-tech/
I’m a firm believer in using tech positively with young people. We know they ARE and WILL BE using it in their lives so using it in a positive manner is part of maturing. There are 11 helpful apps in this article to use with your teen. Apps can be like learning programs on TV, they should NOT be used as babysitters to put your child or teen in front of and then walk away. The best education comes from relationship—sitting side-by-side and learning together. Then sharing insights when you are done.
19.11.2022
'Equality Voters' Stopped the 'Red Wave,' Says New Poll
https://www.advocate.com/politics/2022/11/18/equality-voters-stopped-red-wave-says-new-poll
This term, “Equality Voters.” will stay with me. I believe that the most important step in organizational development and training is to build a common glossary. This term should be in all of our glossaries and we should seek ways to grow a majority of Equality Voters in future elections.
18.11.2022
Walking can be a beautiful way to self-reflect — here are 21 questions to get you started
My little brother, Paul, who was an exceptional Physical Therapist, triathlete and marathoner, until he passed away from cancer. Shortly before his death (of lung cancer) in 2013, he ran in a marathon wearing a shirt that said, “Running with one lung.” Paul was very fond of saying, “the best exercise is the one you will do…” One of the reasons I love to promote walking is because it can be so relaxing and enjoyable, it is a great way to self-reflect. It is an exercise-you-will-do.
17.11.2022
Corporal Punishment Affects Brain Activity, Anxiety, and Depression
https://neurosciencenews.com/corporal-punishment-mental-health-21869/
The results of this research should not surprise us, but it should remind and affirm the primary reason that “spare the rod, spoil the child,” is nonsense. Rather it should be, “Use the rod, endanger the child…”
16.11.2022
5 Benefits of Pretend Play
https://www.parents.com/benefits-of-pretend-play-6828493
Pretend play with a child or just encouraging children to play alone is a major developmental tool. Most adults say they found out what they wanted to do in life through play. Also, please remember that most adolescents still play, they just play in a more cognitive manner. While the famed developmental psychologist, Jean Vanier, would tell us that “the work of children is play” and that children learn through play, I believe that adolescents learn through conversations. Most of the work an adolescent is doing is in their mind, we might call it fantasy. Help adolescents develop healthy fantasies and outlets for thinking about their anger, fears and anxiety.
This Week’s Links
22.11.2022
Equipping kids to defend against science misinformation
https://phys.org/news/2022-11-equipping-kids-defend-science-misinformation.html
5 Characteristics That Will Help You Succeed Through the Toughest of Times
I've been a nanny for over 18 years. These are my top 3 fail-safe techniques for dealing with tantrums.
https://www.insider.com/experienced-nanny-shares-her-techniques-for-dealing-with-tantrums-2022-11
Harvard psychologists have been studying what it takes to raise 'good' kids. Here are 6 tips.
Personalised learning is billed as the 'future' of schooling: what is it and could it work?
The Promise, Power, and Practice of Student Agency
For Better Relationships At Home And Work, Focus On How You Talk And Listen
21.11.2022
4 Things People With Great Communication Skills Will Do in a Conflict
Teens Know Climate Change Is Real. They Want Schools to Teach More About It
How to talk to your child about their autism diagnosis – the earlier the better
The Evidence Shows Masks Work
https://www.mcgill.ca/oss/article/covid-19-medical-critical-thinking/evidence-shows-masks-work
What Does It Mean to Care About COVID Anymore?
20.11.2022
11 Ways to Support Teen and Young Adult Mental and Emotional Health Using Tech
https://www.makeuseof.com/support-teen-young-adult-mental-emotional-health-tech/
For School Leaders, Empathy Isn't Optional
https://www.ascd.org/blogs/for-school-leaders-empathy-isnt-optional
4 Ways To Stop Taking Things So Personally
https://www.yourtango.com/self/ways-stop-taking-everything-personally
19.11.2022
'Equality Voters' Stopped the 'Red Wave,' Says New Poll
https://www.advocate.com/politics/2022/11/18/equality-voters-stopped-red-wave-says-new-poll
Virginia’s GOP governor deleted MLK Day & Barack Obama from its history curriculum
The Promise, Power, and Practice of Student Agency
The U.S. Surgeon General’s Guide to Workplace Wellbeing
https://hive.com/blog/workplace-wellbeing/
4 Things People With Great Communication Skills Will Do In a Conflict
A Champion Debater’s Guide to Winning Arguments
https://nextbigideaclub.com/magazine/champion-debaters-guide-winning-arguments-podcast/37237/
Your success will be determined by 3 things. Here’s how to get better at each
18.11.2022
Walking can be a beautiful way to self-reflect — here are 21 questions to get you started
Virginia Gov. Glenn Youngkin Pushes ‘Racist’ K-5 Curriculum That Excludes MLK And Slavery
https://newsone.com/4449334/virginia-proposed-school-curriculum/
RSV, Flu, COVID: Here’s What Parents Need to Know About the Impending ‘Tripledemic’
If You Want More Joy, Wealth, and Success in Your Life, Start by Cleaning Your Room
17.11.2022
Corporal Punishment Affects Brain Activity, Anxiety, and Depression
https://neurosciencenews.com/corporal-punishment-mental-health-21869/
Regular exercise leads to improved performance on cognitive tests in overweight children
16.11.2022
5 Benefits of Pretend Play
https://www.parents.com/benefits-of-pretend-play-6828493
5 helpful tips for explaining autism to kids and teens, according to autism-affirming experts
https://www.insider.com/guides/parenting/how-to-explain-autism-to-kids
Adopting a smile can make you feel happier, large global study finds - The British Psychological Society
The Unusual Covid Symptom Affecting Kids You Should Be Looking Out For
10 Picture Book Biographies of Authors to Show Kids How to Use Their Words
https://bookriot.com/picture-book-biographies-of-authors/
What’s the best way to deal with a flood of misinformation? Maybe it’s time for some deliberate ignorance
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
A week until our Benefit Thanksgiving Concert at Crocodiles in Progreso. Tickets are going fast and proceeds will go to AMPAY (La Asociación de Mujeres para la Prevención de Abuso en Yucatán) and YGO (Yucatan Giving Outreach). If you haven’t bought tickets yet, please contact Crocodiles at 999 638 7088.
Youth Mental Health & COVID-19
Year 3, Week 30 (132 total reports)
09.11.2022-15.11.2022
REVIEW
A week until our Benefit Thanksgiving Concert at Crocodiles in Progreso. Tickets are going fast and proceeds will go to AMPAY (La Asociación de Mujeres para la Prevención de Abuso en Yucatán) and YGO (Yucatan Giving Outreach). If you haven’t bought tickets yet, please contact Crocodiles at 999 638 7088.
This Week’s Top Links
15.22.2022
5 Characteristics That Will Help You Succeed Through the Toughest of Times
Those of you who know me, know that I’m not a big fan of the word, “Success.” I believe it has too many consumer-based inferences. I prefer to think of influence and meaning. We’ve been witness to too many lives that have success without purpose or compassion. Where the end goal is the accumulation of money and the means becomes using people to get things. Throwing aside the terminology of success, I still think this article can help you pursue your goals in life through difficult times. I have a number of friends that will be able to grow from this article. Please take a look at it if you or someone you know is going through difficulty or if you work with young people want to help build their resilience.
14.11.2022
4 Simple Ingredients Every Person Needs To Create A Truly Happy Life
https://www.yourtango.com/self/simple-ingredients-every-person-needs-create-truly-happy-life
On all these lists of living a happier life, one never seems to find the pursuit of a happier life. Self-care, yes, but not the pursuit of happiness for it’s own sake. The best way to attain unhappiness is to pursue happiness.
13.11.2022
Harvard Study Reveals the 1 Thing That Makes Humans Happy. Why Are You Doing the Complete Opposite?
This study boils down the pursuit of a happier life to a singular fundamental element. I’m sure you can guess that it isn’t the accumulation of things or the pursuit of happiness in and of itself.
12.12.2022
Compassionate interaction between a frazzled dad and his 6-year-old son has people in tears
https://www.upworthy.com/compassionate-father-son-interaction-after-toddler-tantrum
We all need more teaching videos like this. As I watch this the scripture, “And a little child shall lead them…” [Is, 11:6] comes to mind.
11.11.2022
Mindfulness may treat anxiety just as well as medication, study says
https://www.wcax.com/2022/11/10/mindfulness-may-treat-anxiety-just-well-medication-study-says/
Let’s clarify there is a difference between anxiety and clinical depression and further clarify the importance of seeking professional assistance in diagnosis of treating either. There is nothing wrong with using medication to assist with either issue if that is what a professional determines. Still, medications are often over-prescribed as the most efficient solution—especially in institutional care and education.
10.11.2022
A school replaced detention with meditation. The results are stunning.
https://www.upworthy.com/this-school-replaced-detention-with-meditation-the-results-are-stunning-rp
There is no surprise in this finding to me, but I hope more schools, Correctional Centers and Group Homes will study this article and see how the principles could be applied to their circumstances.
09.11.2022
Why do we feel bad when our beliefs don't match our actions? Blame 'cognitive dissonance'
Cognitive Dissonance is one of the most important theories in human development. In short, if there is discord between what we believe and how we act, we will change the way we believe. This is one of the reasons why so many young people can come from healthy backgrounds and still get so lost.
This Week’s Links
15.22.2022
5 Characteristics That Will Help You Succeed Through the Toughest of Times
Pediatrician is changing the way we think about teens with 'lighthouse parenting' tips
https://www.upworthy.com/lighthouse-parenting
14.11.2022
4 Simple Ingredients Every Person Needs To Create A Truly Happy Life
https://www.yourtango.com/self/simple-ingredients-every-person-needs-create-truly-happy-life
How to Argue Effectively: Harvard Negotiation Expert Shares Techniques for Arguing Effectively, Especially About Politics
https://www.openculture.com/2022/11/how-to-argue-effectively-harvard-negotiation-expert.html
13.11.2022
Harvard Study Reveals the 1 Thing That Makes Humans Happy. Why Are You Doing the Complete Opposite?
‘I’m a Clinical Psychologist, and Here’s How To Spot—And Halt—Catastrophic Thoughts in Their Tracks’
https://www.wellandgood.com/how-stop-catastrophic-thinking/
How To Set And Protect Your Boundaries During The Holidays
https://www.brit.co/setting-boundaries-holiday-stress/
How To Find A Good Therapist Without Breaking The Bank - Glam
https://www.glam.com/1097580/find-a-good-therapist-without-breaking-the-bank/
Breathing May Measurably Modulate Neural Responses Across Brain - Neuroscience News
https://neurosciencenews.com/respiration-neural-activity-21828/
When Children Feel Pain: From Everyday Aches to Chronic Conditions
11 Simple-Yet-Powerful Changes That Set You Up For The Happiest Life Ever
https://www.yourtango.com/self/simple-yet-powerful-changes-set-up-happiest-life-ever
Joy Therapy: When did you last feel this happy? - YOU Magazine
https://www.you.co.uk/joy-therapy/
12.11.2022
Compassionate interaction between a frazzled dad and his 6-year-old son has people in tears
https://www.upworthy.com/compassionate-father-son-interaction-after-toddler-tantrum
What Happens to the Dopamine System When We Experience Aversive Events? - Neuroscience News
https://neurosciencenews.com/dopamine-aversive-event-21824/
I’m a parenting educator: Here are 5 things I always do with my own kids
https://www.today.com/parents/essay/5-things-parenting-educator-always-does-kids-rcna55160
Why I Will Show My Kids What Unconditional Love Looks Like
https://www.yourtango.com/love/why-i-will-show-my-kids-what-unconditional-love-looks-like
The 7 Best Apps for Positive Parenting
https://www.makeuseof.com/best-apps-positive-parenting/
What 120 interviews with female leaders can teach us about strengths
https://qz.com/what-120-interviews-with-female-leaders-can-teach-us-ab-1849773624
11.11.2022
Mindfulness may treat anxiety just as well as medication, study says
https://www.wcax.com/2022/11/10/mindfulness-may-treat-anxiety-just-well-medication-study-says/
Expert Advice: How Can I Stand Up To Bullies?
https://www.womansworld.com/posts/mental-health/expert-advice-stand-up-to-bullies
Why Intelligence Doesn’t Always Lead to Happiness
https://greekreporter.com/2022/11/11/why-intelligence-does-not-mean-happiness
This Therapist And Mom Is Going Viral On TikTok For Sharing How To Spot Anxiety In Kids, And As A Former Anxious Kid, She's 100% Correct
https://www.buzzfeed.com/meganeliscomb/spotting-anxiety-in-kids
10 ways to boost your child’s confidence
https://www.newschainonline.com/lifestyle/life/10-ways-to-boost-your-childs-confidence-303808
5 Hidden Clues That Point to Someone With High Emotional Intelligence
10.11.2022
A school replaced detention with meditation. The results are stunning.
https://www.upworthy.com/this-school-replaced-detention-with-meditation-the-results-are-stunning-rp
A “psychological vaccine”: Why prebunking is the best way to fight misinformation
https://bigthink.com/thinking/psychological-vaccine-prebunking-misinformation/
How the philosophy behind the Japanese art form of _kintsugi_ can help us navigate failure
The Power Of Touch In (Almost) Every Type Of Relationship
https://madamenoire.com/1326958/the-power-of-touch-in-almost-every-type-of-relationship/amp/
Why you should use explicit instruction
Why the boys are not OK
22 Must-Read Indigenous Authors
https://bookriot.com/must-read-indigenous-authors/
How to avoid bad choices
5 Choices We Should All Make in Life
https://www.oprahdaily.com/life/a41889738/choices-to-make-in-life/
A Clearer Picture of Developing Teen Brain - Neuroscience News
https://neurosciencenews.com/neuroplasticity-teen-brain-21807/
How Gratitude Can Transform Your Mental Health – Forbes Health
https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/mental-health-benefits-of-gratitude/
09.11.2022
Why do we feel bad when our beliefs don't match our actions? Blame 'cognitive dissonance'
TEACHER VOICE: In tough times for teachers, let’s change the way we talk about our work
4 Questions That Will Change Your Professional (and Personal) Life
https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/4-questions-that-will-change-your-professional-personal-life.html
4 Motivational Documentaries To Help You Achieve Your Goals
Covid vaccine significantly improves effectiveness of cancer treatment
How to Help Kids Overcome Their Fear of Math, According to a Brain Scientist